Help with mattress options

Hi Phoenix,

I decided that I really liked the strategy of buying a good quality firm mattress with minimal comfort layer (the weak link that wears out fastest) and adding my own comfort layer in the form of a topper. I went with the Mattress Firm Orthopedic Ultra Firm mattress for this reason, and I decided to go with Brooklyn Bedding’s latex topper bc of their great exchange policy. I found this post very informative:

https://forum.mattressunderground.com/t/recommendation-for-latex-topper-for-new-side-sleeper-with-upper-back-pain

I went with the 3" medium (28 ILD) latex topper after giving them my height and weight and receiving their recommendation. However, either the thickness or ILD seems to be off for me. I’m having the same problem the above poster had with hips sinking in too much… while at the same time my shoulders feel too raised/pushed up when sleeping on my side. I was waking up more frequently throughout the night and awoke in the morning with back pain as well as pressure on my rib cage. I’m not sure if the solution is to go with only 2" so my hips sink less, or try the firmer density so that my shoulders are able to sink more relative to the rest of my body. Or would memory foam be a better option given the alignment issues from the latex (maybe 3" 4 lb)?
FYI, I’m back to using my hotel collection featherbed topper, which lets me sleep better but still lacks in ideal alignment and pressure relief.

Thanks so much,
Michael