Hi ellaiz,
What foundation have you been using. One possibility that absolutely fits your timeline and symptoms is gradual foundation fatigue rather than a sudden mattress failure. If the slats have been slowly bowing over several years under two 200 lb side sleepers, the mattress above them may have been forced into a subtle “U” shape night after night. This is not something you would think about nor would you notice since the change is gradual. This is not an uncommon occurrence.
Latex is extremely elastic and conforming, which is usually a strength in your bedding setup, but over time it can begin adapting to the support structure beneath it. That means the Talalay layer may now be carrying a permanent or semi-permanent compression pattern that mirrors the slat deflection below, especially in your primary sleeping zones.
If this is the case, the mattress itself may not have originally been the root problem at all. The support system underneath gradually created uneven loading, allowing your hips and torso to sink lower than intended while the center third remained comparatively firmer. The fact that your spine straightens when you artificially support your waist strongly supports a “progressive alignment drift” theory rather than a simple comfort issue. If the slats are even slightly bowed downward between supports, the coils and latex above them can follow that geometry surprisingly closely, eventually creating the kind of lateral spinal bend and leading to hip pain you’re experiencing now.
One way to check is to look under the bed for any bowing. The other way is to use your mobile phone and video under the bed as each of you enter the bed and wait 5 -10 minutes and see if the load is causing any movement on the slats.
The issue is, if it is the foundation, regardless of what you replace the layers of the mattress, the new layers will follow the same sagging pattern as the foundation.
Remember, everything between you and the floor matters. One bad layer, slat or some other non conforming component can cause havoc and like slow changes in your vision, you dont realize something is wrong until your body has reached that cross over point and no longer can deal with it.
Yes, it could be a failing latex layer, but you would not expect a medium talalay layer to fail so drastically. If it were a very soft layer or low ILD, perhaps.
Of course the surgeries have not helped, and the coincidence of the typical medium-firm vacation resort mattress compared to your latex with pushback mattress may be telling you, your body is no longer loving the feel of latex. So it is possible it is a combination of things that have all come to a focus point at the same time.
Would be curious to see if there is more too this than a latex layer breaking down.
Maverick