So I apologize, for some reason I don’t have the option to start a new thread so I’m piggy backing on this as it’s somewhat related. Feel free to move me out of this thread, but here’s my question/issue:
I’m coming from an air mattress/bladder setup (like sleep number) bed that had an eggshell memory foam type topper, then pillow top. We basically kept the bed full and as it leaked, we’d just fill it back up. If it got too deflated, you’d sink it and both our backs would start to hurt. I’ve never been a great sleeper and just attributed it to me, and with 3 kids under 6 it’s tough to get much sleep anyways. So I looked for a new mattress as a wife xmas present as we were ready to move on from our 12 year old air bed.
This site was immensely helpful in providing some degree of confidence in the bed purchase, so I pulled the trigger on what was the most common configuration for our setup was (5’5(F) 120lbs, 5’10"(M) 170lbs, both side sleepers, occasionally stomach). This a 10" bed with the following setup:
3" Soft Talalay (22-24 ILD)
3" Medium Dunlop (31 ILD)
3" Firm Dunlop (35 ILD)
cotton mattress protector with 1" wool filling, mattress pad is just a cotton pad, nothing special.
The first night in the bed I slept like I’ve never slept before, I thought it was a bit of a fluke but I continued to get amazing sleep. The bed is softer than our ‘filled up air’, but I didn’t have any lower back pain until about 7 days in and starting wondering if it was a bit too soft. My thinking was, it’s just a hair too soft, and my wife was concerned it was too soft as well so we thought we’d reconfigure.
First was to go from firm->med->soft to med->firm->soft. Wow, that was a dramatic difference in firmness, this is what the full up air bed felt like, it was very firm which was surprising with the top-soft layer still there. We lasted two-nights in this configuration and threw in the towel.
Next up was firm->soft->med, only 1 night in on this but I’ve already thrown in the towel. This is perfectly fine in terms of the firmness level, it felt about right, maybe a touch firm but not uncomfortable. What I missed the most though was the enveloping feeling I got with the firm->med->soft setup. It felt like I was supported but the mattress kind of wrapped around everywhere my body was touching. With the medium on top, it feel like the entire mattress sank with my body, so it was more like a flat sink than it was an enveloping sink if that makes sense. I don’t know how much of that has to do with the dunlop vs. talalay or the medium firmness level, either way I’m going back to that first configuration to see if my body will adapt to it, because that’s my preference.
My hope is that just a bit more time in my preferred setup will allow my body to adapt to it and no more lower back pain due to softness. I wanted to at least try those other options even though it’s only been a short while to see how different they were, and boy were they starkly different! Had the firm middle layer provided that little bit more firmness I was looking for, that would’ve been the end of it but it way overshot.
So here’s my comments/questions:
- If you can do layered approaches, it’s dramatic the difference. I was amazed at the type of bed you could configure out of three layers like that, totally different feel in the three options we tried.
- What would people recommend to give the firm->med->soft a notch upward in firmness without going to something like firm->firm->soft which I’m confident will not work?
2a) One option would be to do xfirm (41ILD)->med->soft, but I’m not sure if I’ll feel that xfirm layer or not
2b) Another consideration is to go to firm->soft (T)-> med (T), so switch out the medium dunlop @31ILD with a med talalay @26-28ILD, that might get me back the enveloping feel with a bit more firmness, but I’m not really sure.
Appreciate any recommendations.
Thanks!