Hi - I think from what I read about posting new questions this thread seems like an ok place to start mine but if I’m hijacking I apologize!
I’ll TRY to be concise but I think the backstory is important for getting any guidance. Sorry if it’s too much!
My husband (5’10, 185 lbs, 26.5 BMI) and I (5’5", 110 lbs, 18.3 BMI) have had (and loved) a king-sized tempurpedic for 15 years. I didn’t have any idea it was that old until I started having leg and hip discomfort in my sleep recently.
When that started I realized the top memory foam layer was pretty mashed. Each of us had a little furrow we were sleeping in. I didn’t think that was necessarily a bad thing - I liked my furrow! When the discomfort started to be a nightly thing I first thought it must be from pressure on my hip but after doing research here (lots of great info here!) and elsewhere I think it’s more likely misalignment from my pelvis sinking too low. I had that same sensation years ago sleeping for a couple of weeks on a soft, soft sofa.
I thought we’d just get another tempurpedic since we had really enjoyed it and at 15 years I think we more than got our money’s worth. (No indentations show when we’re not on it so the warranty wouldn’t apply). Then I saw the price point they’re selling tempurpedics at now and it made me start looking at other options and I got interested in latex.
As an experiment we turned our current mattress over. The bottom layer of our tempurpedic is a very firm foam (polyfoam?) but it has a little give and we were able to sleep on it for a few nights. Although the firmness wasn’t especially comfortable it wasn’t HORRIBLE and the pain in my legs/hip went away. I think that confirmed that discomfort’s from sagging down into the old memory foam. I did feel pressure-point discomfort on my hips and had to switch from side to side all night long but the other more unpleasant feeling was gone.
I thought we might be able to get away with just ordering a latex topper for the upside-down tempurpedic. So after reading a lot of info here I went with a 3" natural talalay in soft from Sleep EZ. (I believe their soft is 19-21 ILD.)
We got it this week and have had only 2 nights on it. When laying on it it’s very comfortable and my husband is fine. But I think I’m sinking in too much. It almost feels the same or softer than the memory foam felt. I haven’t had the same pain at this point but my legs definitely feel a little something. I don’t know if it’s my imagination since I’m obsessing over how it feels. So I plan to keep trying it for a while longer and maybe I’ll get used to it. I do tend to be the princess and the pea-ish so I’m worried that I’m never going to be able to find something perfect. Although the tempurpedic worked great for me so maybe we’ll end up ultimately getting another one – but after learning more about them I’d rather not.
As far as options I thought I’d ask now for any thoughts you might have if I don’t get used to it. Mailing it back to Arizona (we’re in Delaware) would be very expensive. I wondered if it continues to be ‘not perfect’ what the best bet is. Exchange it for something firmer? That seems like we’d just be just rolling the dice again and have no real idea how firm to go. And ordering and sending back is way too expensive to do more than once.
Or I wondered if putting a mattress pad on it – somewhat thick – might reduce the sinking-in aspect of the latex. Possibly a wool one? Although a good king size mattress pad isn’t cheap either so I don’t want to keep spending money especially on something non-returnable.
From reading about people designing beds it seems like a 3" soft talalay layer on top isn’t unheard of. And since I’m somewhat on the lighter end of the spectrum it doesn’t seem like I’d be sinking in so much that’s I’d be out of alignment more than other people who have a soft top layer of latex and no complaints. I’m really puzzled at this point. I thought for sure the 3" topper was going to be the perfect solution.
Does anyone having any thoughts? Thank you in advance! And thank you also, Phoenix, for all of the amazing work you’ve done on this forum. It’s really an incredible resource.