Hi Matt,
Sadly no … not at all.
You may have spent many hours reading but you clearly didn’t understand or apply a great deal of what you read which is truly unfortunate. My help is not designed to make you “feel better” in the face of your accusations or implications … it’s designed to help educate you and others that may read this thread.
I don’t suggest “research to no end” and as a matter of fact I discourage it. One of the comments you will have often seen me mention is to “connect with experts” so you don’t have to become one. Another is to use your own personal experience to replace “theory at a distance”. I provide people with tools and guidelines to make more informed choices based on factual information that can serve as a fact check and that helps them understand the risks, tradeoffs, and options that are connected to the choices that they have available. Each person is responsible for their own choices and the degree of risk they are willing to accept and what each person chooses to do with the information here is up to them.
Again … this suggests that you are having difficulty understanding what is written here or the concepts behind them (such as posts like this) because recommending specific mattresses would be a ridiculous idea when each person is unique. Nobody owns a magic crystal ball that can do this for someone else with any certainty. Nobody else can feel what your body feels on a mattress. Knowing how to choose and having access to factual information that can increase your odds of success is the only way to provide meaningful help to anyone that can increase the odds of success. Wanting others to make your choices for you is usually the first sign of someone who doesn’t want to take responsibility for their choices and would rather pass responsibility on to others. To suggest that anyone could spend the time involved in the more detailed personal conversations it would take with each and every person who visits this site to even begin to make specific recommendations out of the many thousands of mattresses that are available is a rather strange and absurd position to be taking to say the least.
I understand that you aren’t happy and in the middle of emotional reactions that seek to blame anyone that you can target for your choices and circumstances … but what you are suggesting makes no sense and would contradict the very reason for the site which is to educate not to recommend specifics for each person which isn’t possible. If you were to re-read the posts you claim to have read with a little more care and understanding you would realize this. Your comments indicate that common sense is not always “common” unfortunately.
If you really took the time to think this though more clearly you would understand how little sense it makes. Facts and accurate information don’t need defending … they just need to be made available so that you can have the knowledge and information you need to make informed choices and take responsibility for your decisions. Passing responsibility and blame on to others (whose intent is to help you to the best of their ability) when you make a choice that doesn’t work out for you makes little sense. I understand the concept of wanting all the benefits that go with a particular choice but each choice comes with risks and tradeoffs and the possibility of making mistakes no matter which direction you choose to go or how much others try to help you is always a possibility. It’s not much different from any other part of life itself.
Phoenix