Hi HoosierLife,
[quote]I have the soft topper bagged up and ready to ship back. I have two days to make that decision. I’ve asked Chuck at DreamFoam for an extension so we will see. My wife liked the bed with two soft layers. Honestly, we did not give it much time.
I know right now I’m not liking it. I’m ready to scrap it all and go with a pocket coil mattress at Bowles. I know their poly foam is 1.8 density. Which is the lowest grade of HD, but I’m sure it’s still pretty good. I layer on the beds and they felt soft. I like soft.[/quote]
I would agree that you haven’t given it enough time or had the chance to try some of the different configurations that may be helpful.
There is some information in post #2 here about the most common symptoms that people may experience on a mattress and some of the most common causes for them that may help you identify the reasons for your experiences and “symptoms”.
There is also more about primary or “deep” support and secondary or “surface” support and their relationship to firmness and pressure relief and the “roles” of different layers in a mattress in post #2 here and in post #4 here that may also be helpful in clarifying the difference between “support” and “pressure relief” and “feel”.
The most important suggestion I could make though though would be to stay in touch with SleepEZ about each new combination you test so you can take advantage of their knowledge and experience with other customers that are similar to you that have had similar issues since you may not be making the type of changes that would be the most likely to help with your “symptoms”. They will be the most reliable source of guidance that can help you make the type of changes that would have the best chance of success.
You are the only one that can feel what you feel on a mattress and there are too many unknowns, variables, and personal preferences involved to use a formula or for anyone to be able to predict or make a specific suggestion or recommendation about which mattress or combination of materials and components would be the best “match” for you in terms of PPP (Posture and alignment, Pressure relief, and Personal preferences) based on specs (either yours or a mattress) or “theory at a distance” that can possibly be more accurate than your own careful testing or personal sleeping experience (see mattress firmness/comfort levels in post #2 here).
If you list the layers and components of a mattress on the forum (see this article) then I can certainly make some comments about the quality and durability of the materials and the mattress as a whole but only you can decide whether a mattress is a good “match” for you in terms of PPP.
Two of the most important links in the tutorial that I would especially make sure you’ve read are post #2 here which has more about the different ways to choose a suitable mattress that is the best “match” for you in terms of PPP (Posture and alignment, Pressure relief, and Personal preferences) that can help you assess and minimize the risks of making a choice that doesn’t turn out as well as you hoped for that are involved in each of them and post #13 here which has more about the most important parts of the “value” of a mattress purchase which can help you make more meaningful quality/value comparisons between mattresses in terms of suitability, durability, and value.
Phoenix