I’m looking for some help from the community here. My wife and I have had Beautyrest mattresses for a while, we bought a King-size Plush Pillowtop in 2014 and then had it replaced under warranty in 2020. The replacement they gave us was the lowest base model, and it started sagging within a year. 3 months ago we decided to replace it, so after an exhaustive search, we settled on the Ghostbed Flex due to the fact that we had read it was great for side sleepers and had great edge support. The fact that they are a trusted member here helped solidify that choice. We also had visited Shovlin, as they are local to us, but couldn’t find a bed of theirs that met our needs.
When the bed arrived, we found the edge support wasn’t that great and my wife’s arms were falling asleep every night, which was something we never experienced on the Beautyrest mattresses, along with her having significant upper back pain. We bought a 2" topper from SOL to try and help make it softer, and while it helped, we still weren’t satisfied.
So we decided to go to SleePare in NYC to try out a bunch of bed-in-a-box mattresses, but came away from that not really liking any of those beds (Helix, Winkbed, Avocado, Bear, Leesa), then we turned to Mattress Firm to try and find another Beautyrest that would be like what we had before. The first one we bought was a Medium Firm BRS 900, which was hard as a rock and after one night knew there was no way it would work. We exchanged it for a Plush Pillowtop Pressuresmart, which felt great in the store and when delivered, also felt as hard as a rock.
Meanwhile, we returned the latex topper and requested a return from Ghostbed, who asked if we would try their memory foam topper. We agreed, and that has made the bed “ok”. So now we’re at the point of sleeping on the Ghostbed, debating whether to just accept having an “ok” mattress or what else we could try. We looked at some Stearns and Foster but are obviously concerned that being owned by an “S” brand will mean the durability is crap and we’ll be out thousands of dollars.
Here is where I need some advice on what to do next. Our stats are:
Me: 5’8", 190 pounds, combo sleeper, about 50/50 stomach/side
Wife: 5’3", 200 pounds, side sleeper
My wife tends to sleep hot, and given that she is heavier, she needs the support from a bed but also the comfort for pressure relief. It just seems to be very difficult to find this combination and we feel like we’ve researched to exhaustion.
Any assistance would be greatly appreciated!