Hello,
Thank you for this website; what a wealth of information. I’m seeking some direction on next steps after many efforts of finding a mattress that works for me. I’m a woman in her 40s, 135 lb, 5’3", with wide hips, short torso, and narrow shoulders. I prefer to side sleep but often seem to flip onto back at night. I’ve had arthritis and SI joint issues in one hip for many years. I can’t find a mattress that gives me both lower back support AND pressure relief for my hips and shoulders. Right now I’m miserable, getting extremely poor sleep and waking up sore, no matter what I try.
History, chronological:
-10-12 years on a “Luxury Firm” innerspring from a mainstream/pre-bed-in-a-box retailer. My hands would often fall asleep/tingle at night. The last couple years of it, my lower back would also hurt.
-Summer 2020: Bought Sleep on Latex, soft model (at their advice). Horrible lower back pain and didn’t like the rubber band-like latex feel; returned after 3 months.
-Fall 2020: Really wanted to stick to the all-natural latex approach, so bought Naturepedic EOS Trilux, which has 3 layers of latex; I switched the layers around in just about every configuration (e.g., from top to bottom: hard-medium-soft; hard-hard-medium; hard-hard-soft). Every configuration resulted in extreme pain and soreness in lower back or hips. Also, latex always felt like it was pushing (painfully) against my joints and so responsive that I wasn’t stable in bed – it felt like my tiniest movement would ricochet me into a different position. It wasn’t relaxing or comfortable. Sometimes I would come out and sit on the couch at 3 a.m. just to give my body some relief. Returned at 3 months and swore to never try latex again.
-Winter 2021: Ordered Casper Nova Hybrid. It was truly a dream for my hips and shoulders and really felt like a cloud…but a nightmare for my lower back (plus, that cloud-like foam was really hot). Returned at 3 months.
-Spring 2021: Ordered Helix Midnight Luxe (their medium version, for side-sleepers). Opposite of Casper Nova, it was a dream for my lower back – the best I’d felt in many months or even years! – but painful for my shoulders and hips. The general feel was “hard,” not comfortable or relaxing. I would have ordered a topper, but it was already a really tall mattress, so instead I…(see below).
-Summer 2021: Switched to Helix Sunset Luxe (their softest version, for side-sleepers). This is similar to Casper Nova Hybrid (although not quite as soft); lower back pain but more comfortable for hips (not so great for shoulders). I feel like my midsection is sagging into the mattress, and my whole body feels contorted at night.
The mattresses I’ve been ordering online have all been on a platform bed with 3" gaps between the slots and a center support (running horizontally, and a center leg).
I have no idea what to do next. Trying out mattresses in person is challenging with the pandemic (we’re very cautious with Delta variant). I’ve read up on purple but wasn’t impressed by their seat cushion and worry a mattress would be too “latex-like” for me. The rare times I get a full night’s sleep, I feel like a different person, but generally I wake up multiple times during the night, with either lower back pain or hip pain (sometimes both), plus tingling hands on firmer mattresses. I feel like I’m catnapping all night, like the sleep you get on an airplane…and then am in a haze during the day. And I’m concerned about my long-term disease risk (cardiovascular, Alzheimer’s, etc.) from this chronic poor sleep.
Thank for you bearing with this long narrative. Any direction – brands, types of mattresses, etc. - that you can throw my way would be so deeply appreciated. Thank you!!