Hi terrabiped,
Welcome to the Mattress Forum!
Placing a topper upon an existing mattress that is too firm can certainly be an affordable, and often a most appropriate, method to increasing your sleeping comfort.
With your mattress being 14 years old, you’re certainly in the “bonus time” of the life of that product. The key thing is to make sure that the support system is still intact and that the foams are still performing to a level that you deem “suitable”. A mattress that is firm, but where the foams are sagging, will end up being a softer sagging mattress if a topper is placed upon the product. This is one of the most common mistakes that people make – believing that a topper will cure the ills of foams that are showing deep body impressions. This doesn’t seem to the case in your situation.
The Casper has a combination of 1.5" of synthetic Dunlop latex over 1.5" of 4 lb memory foam over 1.5" of 2.5 lb high performance polyfoam over a 5" 1.8 lb polyfoam support core, so it is of course a softer and different construction from your Restonic, which is an innerspring unit that is extra firm. Placing a topper on top of your existing Restonic mattress won’t recreate the feel of the Casper mattress you tried, but you’d certainly be moving in a more plush direction.
In general, a range of 3" to 6" is quite common for the upholstery and quilt foam layers in a modern one-sided mattress. In a poly core mattress, 3"-4" is more common above the polyfoam core, although there are products that use more or less. If you’re considering using latex, 2" -3" for a topper is common, with 3"-4" for memory foam also being common. Of course it all comes down to your personal preference. Since latex and memory foam are the most popular topper materials there is more about the pros and cons of each of them in post #2 here .
The three ways to get the most accurate possible idea of how a particular material will feel and perform … in order of importance … are to test it in person on the mattress you will be using it on (or a very similar mattress), to have more detailed conversations with knowledgeable people who make or sell that specific material and are familiar with how it compares with other materials in terms of either feel or performance, and finally online research that can give you some insights as well. Just bear in mind that a great deal of the online information is also inaccurate or misleading and only “disguised” as being neutral or factual and meant more for marketing and selling something that a particular retailer sells than it is to actually educate and inform based on fact. Different people may also have very different perceptions and preferences than someone else and what is “perfect” for one person may not be suitable at all for the next.
If you are using a local retailer for a topper purchase, attempt to find a very firm mattress in their showroom to approximate what you currently have at home and then test the various toppers upon that product. If you are choosing a topper that is different in some way from what you are familiar with or where you are unsure of how the mattress/topper combination will work for you because one or the other are more of an unknown, because of unfamiliarity with either, or because the mattress itself has changed since a combination worked well for you … then there are some TOPPER GUIDELINES IN POST #8 HERE that you can use along with your own experience on your mattress to choose the thickness and softness that has the best odds of working well for you.
Some of the BETTER SOURCES FOR TOPPERS I’M AWARE OF ARE LISTED IN POST #4 HERE . If you are uncertain it would also be a good idea to check for any exchange or return policies, just in case the topper you choose is firmer or softer than you would like.
As I mentioned earlier, you certainly are in “bonus time” with your mattress, but being in a lower BMI range, and being double sided using firmer foams (and hopefully rotating the product frequently), it seems that you’ve been able to extend the life of the product. I’m a fan of maximizing the usable life of any product, but only you can make the judgement of whether or not this mattress is still worthy of providing you a longer, serviceable life.
I’ll be interested to learn about your decision.
Phoenix