Hi all,
I’m finally upgrading my mattress to a queen size and oh my, mattress shopping is a maze wrapped up in a very high price tag! Grateful to find a forum like this.
I’ve slept on a twin (Oliver Smith 10" firm) with a 4" memory foam/gel topper for six years (both held up very well! The mattress is still certainly as firm as a rock 
). The mattress itself, too firm whenever I try it, hence the topper, but now the topper is too soft. I was a lightweight sleeper at 120 lbs for most of my time on this bed which is why I think the foam worked so long, but I was that skinny because of cancer not because of a beach bod or whatever, so now that I’ve beaten cancer (
) I am now about 180lbs and riddled with chronic pain.
I believe I sleep mostly on my side, though I definitely toss and turn very violently in my sleep. For example, I’ll wake up to blankets rotated ninety degrees, pillows launched clear across the room… sometimes I come to starfished on my back, sometimes face down suffocating in my pillow… sleep-me is so active I can get in steps on my smartwatch before I wake up.
I have pain in my knees on my stomach on a firm mattress, shoulder/arm numbness/pain on my side on a firm or soft mattress, pain in my back on a firm mattress… not sure a mattress can really help, but I thought latex mattresses might give me the softness I needed with a bit more support and perhaps give me a chance at some reduced pain.
I tried one bed in a showroom with the following configuration that I found wonderfully comfortable, it felt not-too-soft but not-too-firm, and wanted to hear from some more mattress-savvy folk since the return policy at this store is…terrible. Will it come apart? Is that a ridiculous layout of layers? Is this just a greenwashed memory foam hybrid bed?
From top to bottom:
- 2" Soybean Oil Foam
- 2" or 1" Talalay Latex
- 2" Soybean Oil Foam
- 8" 14 Gauge 825 Pocket Coils
I also welcome bed recommendations (ex. mainstream dupes)! My backup plan is probably a cheap coil mattress and then stacking top-rated memory and/or latex topper(s) on top. Thank you so much!