Brooklyn Bedding has changed materials

[phoenix]

Hi sleepyhead,

Thanks for your update on your BME. Your descriptions do sound as if you may desire something that is a bit more plush on top. As you’ve had the mattress for a bit over a month it should have been enough time for it to lose some of its “false firmness” and also should have given you ample time to adjust to it and also lose some of your “learned alignment” from your old mattress. The good news is that you have a 120 night trial policy with this mattress. If you think a slightly softer surface comfort might work better for you, you may wish to phone Brooklyn Bedding and learn of any options that they might have for you to accomplish that.

In fact as far as naps concerned, I’m starting to wonder if my frequent daytime somnolence is because I don’t sleep well through the night. I am getting lots of sleep in terms of the hours I spend in bed (~8 per night), but every day around 2PM I want to crawl into bed. But that could be due to something else.

It certainly is possible that you are not getting enough restorative sleep and that is causing you to nap more, or as you mentioned it could be from other aspects outside of your night time sleeping environment.

I find myself sleeping on my stomach more often because it offers relief – it frees up both arms from the pinching and puts less pressure on my back and hips.

That would also tend to point to the mattress being a bit too firm on the surface for your comfort preference.

So I figured I would be that picky about it and that a medium would be a nice middle-of-the-road option for me. I guess I was wrong.

Regardless of the quality of materials and research done before selecting a product, nothing is certain and there’s no substitution for your own actual testing of any mattress, so it’s good that you did choose a product with a good trail/return policy.

Not sure if I want to try to the soft option or go for a traditional mattress. I have a wooden/slat foundation and I’m not sure if/how those work with a traditional mattress.

I don’t know that the issue you’re having finding an appropriate comfort is necessarily the result of your mattress not being an innerspring as much as it is a result of the surface comfort being a bit too firm for your preference, as there are also innerspring mattresses that are quite hard feeling as well. With that being said, some people do tend to have an affinity for springs versus polyfoam for the support core of a mattress.

Not trash-talking the mattress just giving my own experience based on the option I chose. Medium just feels more on the firm side in fact I wonder what firm actually feels like compared to this. Never thought of myself as a “soft” guy and never thought I could be so picky about it one way or the other.

I don’t think you’re “talking trash” at all, and I appreciate you taking the time to provide your personal feedback. And realize that there are no “standard” definitions or consensus of opinions for firmness ratings and different manufacturers can rate their mattresses very differently than others so a mattress that one manufacturer rates as being a specific firmness could be rated very differently by another manufacturer. Different people can also have very different perceptions of firmness and softness compared to others as well and a mattress that feels firm for one person can feel like “medium” for someone else or even “soft” for someone else (or vice versa) depending on their body type, sleeping style, physiology, their frame of reference based on what they are used to, and their individual sensitivity and perceptions. There are also different types of firmness and softness that different people may be sensitive to that can affect how they “rate” a mattress as well (see post #15 here) so different people can also have very different opinions on how two mattresses compare in terms of firmness and some people may rate one mattress as being firmer than another and someone else may rate them the other way around. This is all relative and very subjective and is as much an art as a science. In other words … the only reliable way to know whether a mattress will be “firm enough” or “soft enough” for you will be based on your own careful testing or your own personal experience, and I would use the terms like “soft” and “firm” within a mattress company’s line up as relative comparisons, almost like a number ranking system.

I’ll be interested in learning what you ultimately decide to do.

Phoenix