Hi,
I’ve been looking for a replacement mattress that would work for my wife for over 2 years already and so far still haven’t found what would work. So far I’ve done some research on my own, including from The Mattress Underground, and I’m wondering if anyone can give us some advice and point us to the right direction.
Wife got injured from work in the upper back and neck area, and is currently around 12% permanent disabled according to workers comp. The reason of the injury is from repetitive motion at work and looking downward, and she has some spinal disk protrusion that is pinching the nerves. Also she has some nerve damages and the regrowth of the nerve is near the skin, so if the skin around the neck and elbows are pressurized, she would feel pain.
We are currently sleeping on a Simmons Beautyrest World Class Extra Firm purchased in 2006 from Mancini’s. It was fine for a while until we both aged a bit (both 34), the “fish bones” of the bed frame bent down a bit, and the mattress sagged a bit (not visible but you can tell a difference sleeping in the middle vs 1 of the 2 “sides” of the mattress).
Wife is feeling neck and back pain in the morning that goes away after a couple hours. The pain is near the border between the upper back and the neck (around C7 and T1 according to chiropractor) and the shoulder. We currently have a 1" medium firmness Talalay latex topper from The Foam Factory, and it helps a bit (We tried 3" but that was too bouncy and returned it).
The problem we have when shopping for a mattress, is that it is either too firm and make her tail bone hurt or too soft and make her neck / upper back / shoulders hurt. Many mattress sales told us it is the pillow if it is the neck, and she tried many pillow and settled on a synthetic down pillow that she has to shape once in a while. Even with that she is still having neck / back pain.
We previously bought a Simmon’s Beautyrest NXG400 and it was making my wife feel worse, that we end up returning and take a $270 penalty from Macy’s (at least we could return it). We also bought a simple plush twin mattress with no memory foam or euro top, just decent coil count, for our guest bedroom and it feels decent for my wife in the butt area. It feels good for a while as the support is very “progressive” according to the article of how the layers are put together page here, but after sleep for a few night she would develop neck and upper back pain. She was sleeping between the 2 beds for a while but now decided that she need something with support yet not too much sink in. Yet if it is a firm bed with little cushioning, her butt / tailbone would hurt.
We went to a sleep number store and try their 3D imaging, and they basically said she need a compromise between the 2 or her butt will have a lot of pressure. Her number is 45 and she feel OK on a p6 mattress (that’s 1.5" of foam). We haven’t pulled the trigger because we want to see if we can find something that works better. One idea that I was thinking of is sleeping on a dual zone King sleep number horizontally so the top is firmer and bottom is softer.
Any suggestion? I am really out of ideas and don’t think I can find an off the shelf mattress that would work great, even before factoring in the price.
My thinking is something like this will work:
- 1.5"-2" layer of medium firmness latex foam as comfort layer
- multiple support layers progressive design for more comfort and durability than differential design
- Different zoning that is soft on the butt and firm near the neck / shoulder.
p.s. one extra observation of my wife’s ergonomics: she has problem with curved seat back that pushes her shoulder inward. She feels the best sitting with a hard surface or firm seat back with no left to right contour (i.e. bench seat). The most comfortable seat to her is a train’s bench seat and because of that, she’s taking train to work instead of driving.
p.s. many people suggested using a rolled up towel as pillow / neck support but that is also painful to my wife. The rolled up portion is suppose to support her neck but this “support” would put pressure on her neck’s nerve as well. I’m suspecting that when we are finding mattress we need to make sure there’s a “void” at her neck. This is probably the main reason that anything with memory foam would cause her pain.