Hi alasearwax,
(got your name right this time!)
You may find these two articles from the Polyurethane Foam Association (PFA) useful. Specifically, section 4.2.2 about IFDs in this article, and this article about polyfoam density. There is some discussion there about common IFDs for different cushions and sleep surfaces.
If you are considering Foam Factory (aka Foambymail or FBM and other names as well) you may wish to read this post and this post and this topic (about their polyfoam and sources) and this post (presumably from a past employee)for some commentary and information about them, and sources of their foam products.
Also, if your daybed is using a polydeck or link spring unit, you may wish to reinforce it with a plywood deck or a binkie board, or something similar, as some of those units can allow for quite a bit of sag.
Phoenix