I’m into the rabbit hole of searching and searching for the right mattress.
First our stats: 5’6" 135 lbs and 5’1" 110 lbs. Both side sleepers. We had a 5" Tuft and Needle mattress. I think it’s one of the very first models from them. We found it firm for our needs, but we got used to it. Unfortunately this mattress got destroyed during a Thanksgiving trip by our cats and a defective self cleaning litter box … We then went to store and got a Purple 3. A hell lot more than I wanted to spend, but we both liked it at the store.
Fast forward to now and my wife is complaining about motion transfer. I move quit a bit and it’s bothering her. Something that never bothered her with our tuft and needle. I’m ruling out late and hybrids due to motion transfer concerns. For the amount of money I paid, I feel like the Purple 3 should not be something we can just live with, so I want to return it. With that, I want an all foam mattress now, to minimize motion transfer. We feel the purple 3 is borderline soft enough, but we’d like something even softer. Specially as we get older (40+), we both suffer from shoulder pain.
We’re considering the following: Novosbed soft, Layla, Amerisleep AS5 and Gravitylux soft. We’re prioritizing feel/firmness, so which one would be the softest? After feel/firmness, it’s a tie between heat trapping and durability. Any thoughts on this??
PS: I’m not opposed to DYI, but my wife is very much so against it. I’d need an easy recipe to follow and big argument to be able to convince her!
Sorry to hear of the destroyed mattress and the Purple that is causing motion transfer troubles.
This is quite relative. What feels soft to me may feel medium or firm to you, and vice versa. If you happen to have the foam ILDs/IFDs from these mattresses available, I’d be happy to look at them and tell you which one is the softest based purely on the ILD/IFD of the foam.
Memory and polyfoams sleep hotter than latex (which doesn’t sleep hot at all). This is because the cells in poly/memory/gel foams collapse under our body heat throughout the night, causing us to sink more deeply into the foam and therefore trapping more heat between the foam and the body. Latex doesn’t perform in this way (it will only ‘collapse’ to a certain point) and sleeps cooler than other foams. It’s also important to consider that sheets, mattress protectors, and other bedding all factor into how hot a mattress feels.
If you want to take it a step further, you can even get a split comfort layer in your mattress. For example, the Organic Latex from Sleep EZ offers split level in their king size mattress which would reduce motion transfer almost to 0. (You can customize by clicking the “build now” and then the “personalize” button to see what that would look like based on weight, sleeping position, etc.)
This is almost like doing a DIY and your wife would never have to know, haha.
Looking for very plush for good pressure relief on shoulders. Ordering king size split, with the intent to isolate motion transfer as much as possible.
