Hi Baby Carrots,
I am very sorry you have had a bad experience. Clearly, any interactions did not seem go well.
I don’t know which TM you were interacting with and what the circumstances are. I can tell you, if it was a TM that manufactures their own product, meaning not one that simply has a showroom selling various manufacturers products, they could get you just about any foam you want, even memory foam. That can be a conversation for another time.
“You are not mentioning your personal stats (BMI, sleeping positions, possible health issues) or your PPP preferences so it’s not possible to offer some direction except in very general terms. You are the only person that feels what you feel on a mattress and unless you work closely with an experienced manufacturer or retailer your odds of success are limited. (Hence my initial suggestion that you reach out to the manufacturer themselves to see if they would have a solution that could come close to what you are looking for)
I will assume that the “memory foam” you are referring to in your first post and would like to add to your current set up is viscoelastic memory foam (temperature sensitive slow rebound foam, such as tempurpedic). Memory foam in general, is considered more durable the more dense it is. Therefore, the recommendation of 4 or 5lb VE foam would be one appropriate for combining comfort and quality. The thing about VE Memory foam is, it is a comfort foam, not a support foam. Having said that, placing a layer of VE foam under a layer of “unknown” latex most likely will yield even more “jello”. As the VE memory foam is not going to be able to support the latex above it.
You may find that adding a 1.5-2" layer of HD polyurethane foam between the latex layers to add some support may work better than MF (you did mention you wanted to switch from a medium latex layer to a firm layer (again both unknown). Having a HD layer, you can then try a VE layer on top of that and either re install your latex layer above the new setup or try it without (although you did say, you don’t want MF to be the layer closest to you). HD foams can be made to varying weights and densities. Depending on your BMI you should get no less than 1.8lb and probably at least a 36ILD. If you are over 220lbs, I would suggest 2.2lb - 2.8lb with an ILD of around 36.
“It is important to note that the answer is not as simple as just placing some layers of memory foam. Weight, height, associated materials are all going to be a factor, regardless of how the question is asked, there is never a simple answer and it always starts with “depends” whether it will be a good “match” for you in terms of PPP (Posture and alignment, Pressure relief, and your Personal preferences)”
Sellers such as Foam by Mail and Foam Factory plus several others offer all types of foam. You also need to question each vendor about their VE foam. Some will describe a VE 5lb foam as “soft” or “plush” (unlike original tempurpedic VE foam which was a slightly higher than 5lb foam, but very firm, which is what I believe you might like, based on what you have stated thus far). Remember, these foams are synthetic, so they can be made very dense and soft, very dense and firm, all of this can be controlled by the manufacturing process.
I know it seems weird, why isn’t that very dense 5lb memory foam firm like tempur foam all the time? It is the process and additives and blowing agents they use to create the foam to get a specific desired outcome.
Hopefully the information above will get the ball rolling.
Norm