Hi Sleepy103114,
If you are considering ordering from Foambymail (AKA FBM or Foam Factory and other names as well) then I would read this post and this post and this topic (about their polyfoam and sources) and this post (presumably from a past employee) before buying anything or considering them as a reliable supplier that provides accurate information about their foam products.
I would also read the comments in my reply in post #4 here as well about the challenges and trial and error that may be involved with building your own DIY mattress.
It’s not really possible to guess the thickness or firmness of a transition layer that would work best for you in combination with your other foam layers because there are just too many unknowns and variables and personal preferences involved so you may need some trial and error to find out what works best for you in combination with the layers that you have (unless you have a blueprint of another mattress that you know works well for you that uses the same base layer and top layer in which case I would use the same middle layer as well). You could use either polyfoam or latex as a transition foam material and I would probably suggest something in the range of 2" to 3" and a firmness that is somewhere in between your base layer and your 4" soft latex topper topper although I would suggest a firmness level closer to the topper than the base layer (which I also hope you didn’t order from FBM because I don’t trust their firmness ratings).
I would also keep in mind that ILD/IFD numbers don’t compare well between different materials or between different types and blends of latex. 36 ILD may be a little bit high for a transition layer (it’s more in the range of a typical firm base layer) although this can also depend on your weight, body type, sleeping positions, preferences, and on the type and ILD of the latex topper you have. All the layers and components in a mattress (including the cover) will affect the feel and performance of every other layer and component in your mattress … sometimes in very complex or surprising ways … so the only way to know for certain how all the layers will interact with each other and with your body type and sleeping style will be based on your actual “real life” experience.
Phoenix