This is my first post, so I hope Iām doing this correctly! I searched for āscoliosisā posts to tag onto, but couldnāt quite find the right one and my question is kind of about memory foam comfort layersā¦ I was so excited to find this community as Iāve been struggling to find a foam mattress for the last 6 months that could replace my Simmons Comforpedic Advanced Rest/Luxury Firm memory foam mattress, 5 years broken in, that was perfect. It felt like a bunch of individual foam cushions. I miss sleeping well and now dread bedtime. Thanks in advance for any thoughts you may have!
About me if helpful: Princess and the pea sleeper. I have rods in my back to correct scoliosis, so I need a mattress that conforms to me, since I donāt really bend. Iām 144lbs, BMI is 22 but Iām bony - post-pregnancy, my tail bone sticks out way more than it used to and is jamming into the mattress when on my back. I have trouble with my lower lumbar spine overarching when on my back (toward the ceiling) and causing back pain.
Like many here, Iām dreaming about:
- really good support
- pressure relief
- an all foam mattress (I like sleeping āinā the bed with memory foam, even the hybrids are too pushy and latex feels too bouncy)
- works for back sleeping (75% of night) and side sleeping (25% of night)
What Iāve tried so far:
First, I tried to find a Comforpedic on Overstock, but it was a more plush version. My butt sunk in too far right through the comfort layer then hit a too firm next layer. I had nerve compression/ tingly feet.
Then, I tried the Tempurpedic ProAdapt Medium. I broke it in for 2.5 months but it was WAY too firm and caused bursitis, pain in my hips, tail and butt bones. It felt like I wasnāt exerting enough pressure on the mattress and just sleeping āonā it.
Currently, Iām on day 4 with Amerisleep AS4 and I canāt sleep on my back at all because my lower lumbar spine is overarching. There is no gap - the bed fills in the space - but is pushing me way too far towards the ceiling. It feels āsofterā than the ProAdapt, but I donāt think my butt is sinking in very far. Is there a way to tell if the overarching is from too much sinkage vs not enough? Iām guessing not enough bc I feel like Iām sleeping āonā the mattress, not āinā.
I know it takes a while to break in and might end up much softer, so Iām going to walk on it, weigh it down with books, do what I can to last another week of sleeping on it at least, but itās pretty brutal as my hips are sore from exclusive side-sleeping.
Any thoughts on:
-toughing it out on the Amerisleep AS4?
-suggested mattresses similar to the Comforpedic Advanced Rest/Luxury Firm, but less firm/5 years broken in?
I think I need to find an all foam mattress that is very conforming, supportive, and with a soft enough firmness to cushion the bony butt and hips but not too plush to sink through the comfort layer and overarch my back.
In our local stores, Iāve laid on all the foam mattresses - the Beautyrest Black line, iComfort line, and Sleep by number. The closest to comfortable were the Beautyrest Black Nadia (too firm) and Scarlett Plush (too plush).
Online research has me looking at:
-Layla soft side (but maybe similar to AS4?)
-Novosbed soft (but see in Forum concerns about poor quality)
-AS5 (only if itās substantially softer than AS4 and have to wait 30 days to switch I think)
-Luxi soft setting (but sounds difficult to return, bad customer service)
Nothing seems quite right and how to compare to the ones Iāve already tried!
Iād love any guidance! I wish it was possible to hire a mattress shopping consultant, because this is so complex.