Need help on swapping a mattress

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About a month ago I bought a Simmons beauty rest black series 2 medium, which replaced a 15 year old Simmons beauty rest black plush (might have been labeled as luxury firm) Unfortunately this series 2 medium was too firm for me as a side sleeper, the store I purchased from allows a one time exchange. I used the exchange to get a Sealy Brenham pillowtop medium… And it’s only been two days and I hate this mattress. My hips are sinking in too far to the point my lower back hurts and it’s got far too much memory foam sinking feeling… I don’t think I laid on it at the store long enough to notice.

I really need some help, and I’ve pretty much settled on needing to get something else because I don’t think I can live with this one, and no way to make it more firm. In hindsight I should have stuck with the beauty rest medium and tried to soften it up.

I know latex mattresses are well recommended here, but im really not a fan of those, I need a little sink in feeling but not too much. I generally prefer kijdnof traditional innerspring.

Should I give this pillow top mattress more time or is it a given if it’s already too soft it’s not going to work? How early is too early to go back to the store? Should I try to plead for another exchange or bite the bullet and make another purchase?

I am no good at mattress shopping and I’m stressed and overwhelmed.

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Try to see if you can return it, if everything you try won’t work then i guess you’d have to bite the bullet. Sometimes mattress shopping or bedding shopping in general can be hit or miss and some losses occur. The same thing happened to me, i bought extra stuff i just never needed. Probably spent $2200 more in total than i needed to.

If they won’t take your bed back, find a way to sell it and tell them it’s basically new. You can recouperate some funds.

Then if you need recommendations there are quite a few great beds for around 1000 or even under. I can make some recommendations and I’m sure some others here can as well.

Im in the same boat as you with latex and memory foam. I don’t prefer bouncy latex, but do really like it if there’s a very soft top layer to add plushness and settle down the resistant feeling.

Same with memory foam beds. Usually i do not like them, but if there is some form of stitching or way to balance that feeling i can begin enjoying it.

I own a glacier apex, which is memory foam hybrid. It’s somehow very solid and very soft at the same time. The goal is a bed that can do both.

A well built bed can be either firm or plush and still be comfortable to the majority.

I have to admit i am not a fan of beauty rest as a brand.

My recommendations are these -

Nest and wild hybrid - less than $1000 for a queen with their discount

Glacier - their standard is about $800, as you increase in price they basically add more high density foam, and the apex has a lot more “cooling” stitching. The apex i got was 1200 with the 15% discount they had at the time.

Engineered sleep “today” mattress - feels like a good quality do it all standard bed. Only $479 for a queen size - won’t feel amazing but also doesn’t feel bad at all. It’s a medium-firm well built bed.

Copper flex pro hybrid by brooklyn bedding

My favorite is Nest and Wild. Because the top layer is memory foam/latex hybrid, it uses the quad coil texas pocket spring. The foams are pre stressed so they won’t sag, it’s got a cooling cover and he has a 15 year warranty.

It feels very soft and pressure relieving, yet supportive at the same time. It’s the best bang for the buck in bedding in my opinion.

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Thanks, I have to admit I feel ridiculous going back for a third go around… And I am prepared to have to bite the bullet because I doubt they are going to make exceptions.

I’m more worried that I clearly have no idea how to decide what I like lol, and I don’t have much confidence in my ability to tell what I like. The second time I think I focused more on pressure relief and not noticing if it felt supportive enough. I really want to get it right next time because I can’t keep going through mattress after matreess.

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Well the first bed you tried, you said it felt too hard. “Can’t you see im here to be comforted?” You did not want it to feel too hard, so you got a plush…and i have been there. Plush can actually be annoying. Cause it makes you feel like…dude just hold me up, why are you not holding me up?

That’s why i like the nest and wild. It feels very comforting and pressure relieving because of the latex/memory hybrid foam on the top, but it holds you up because of the quadcoil spring system. They have a 100 night sleep trial as well.

No, i am not commissioned by them. It feels like i have to say that because of how much i talk about that bed, but i actually love it that much. It really is the best value in the industry in my opinion.

The general rule is some amount of plush on top, and make sure to have a good solid support underneath. How deep the plush layer is before it reaches the support is preferential, but it seems to me like you do want a plush feel but you want it to stop earlier so the support begins sooner.

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Thanks! They do look very nice but I prefer to try in store honestly. I am hoping to go back to the local store this week.

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If you prefer to try mattresses in person, i highly recommend avoiding mattress firm. Because they sell cheaply made beds at extortion prices. Like beautyrest, they arent made with high density foams. Find a more individual store in another place that has less mainstream brands. There are many great durable beds to be had for far under $2000, and even closer to $1000.

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Hey llamaduck.

It is true that some minor muscle soreness is normal during a break-in period as your body adjusts to a new surface, but true lower back pain or your hips bottoming out is not. Adjustment soreness feels like you’ve had a light workout; sharp or dull spinal pain usually means the mattress is failing to keep you aligned, and that isn’t something you can just “wait out.”

Since the Sealy is already letting you sink too far on day two, it is unlikely to get better because foams only soften over time. They never get firmer. You are essentially fighting the laws of physics once the base support is compromised, and it’s a lot easier to fix a “too firm” bed with a topper than it is to fix a “too soft” bed that’s already bottoming out.

I would head back to the store ASAP and speak with a manager. Don’t worry about it being too early or the “one-time exchange” rule; most people are reasonable when they hear you are in actual physical distress. Just be honest about the back pain and explain that the support isn’t there for your hips. If they let you swap again, look for a “Luxury Firm” or “Medium” innerspring with thinner foam layers so you can stay in control of that “sink-in” feeling with a topper later if you need it.

NikkiTMU

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Thank you! I did go back to the store today and they are willing to allow me to do another exchange but taking 50% of the value of the mattress. They do want me to wait a few weeks, at least to see if the bed will firm up? Seems kind of ridiculous to me, but at least I have a guest bed I find comfortable. I don’t get how a bed I’m sinking into will get firmer but they claim memory foam can firm up with use.

I did look at some other beds and narrowed down to a Sealy plus and a Simmons world class version, I know those brands are not well liked here but for some reason my body hates memory foam and latex, I seem to really prefer the feel of cheap poly foam over springs. My last bed was a 13 year old Simmons that served me well.

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Absolute nonsense it doesnt firm up, i have a glacier apex that feels softer now than when i got it a few months ago. They’re delaying.