Hey Will,
Yes NY is a big state. I live in NJ, so I get it.
Pillows, wow. Ok. I am not a big fan of tempurpedic mattresses, but I love their pillows. I probably have almost every version they make. The only one I did not bother to get was their newer shredded foam pillow. I am not a huge fan of shredded foam pillows in general, but I do make exceptions.
From Tempurpedic, I think their TP Procloud Line is their best all around pillows. The TP PC Hi is my personal choice as I have wider shoulders at 6’ and it is gusseted, a feature that I like in a pillow. I do stack it on top of a TP soft and conforming pillow. I have since changed my pillow again as I never stop looking for a better set up. Here it comes. I bought two Italian Blonde Horsehair pillows from Italy. OMG, for me it is awesome. I use one stacked on that same TP soft and conforming. I now have 3 Horsehair pillows. One just horsehair. A second, I created myself. I took the extra kg of horsehair I ordered from Italy (I thought the pillow might not be lofty enough, so I ordered extra, since shipping alone is $55) and I filled a nice 100% zippered cotton pillow liner with the HH, then I filled another liner with the extra fill that Brooklyn Bedding sent me (from their shredded foam pillow 1/2 memory and 1/2 latex foam combo pillow). I inserted both chambers into a @BioSleepConcept pillow cover Iris Pillow Cover. This cover is awesome as it masks any lumps or unevenness from the HH and shredded foam. This pillow is kind of cool, one side very soft and head cradling, the other side firm and responsive when I sleep on my back. Ok enough about me.
Depending on your needs and sleep position and the amount of loft you need. The TP pillow will sink and cradle your head and neck with amazing support, but soft like a cloud. You would just need to pick from Hi, mid or lo. I would buy on Amazon as you can return there. On the TP site, I would only buy if they are running their BOGO and you should buy one of each size, Perhaps you may like a mid and your partner may like lo, or hi. You and your partner would probably do better with the lo or mid, due to the narrow shoulders.
Another pillow which another TMU sleeper uses is the Majestic pillow. It is a high end contour pillow, with 3 chambers that are removable to adjust for loft.
Another pillow that has piqued my curiosity is by @CozyPure. They have a unique LaNoodle pillow. Actually, a couple of versions. Their unique way of shredding their latex for the pillow, is quite different than any other. They all have zippers for adjusting the fill. One is a two sided pillow for different feels. It was described to me that the “noodle” fill cradles your head and neck as the noodles displace themselves when your head lays on them. This is my next pillow adventure, although if I buy another pillow, my wife will just go ballistic on me, as we have no more room for another pillow in this house. But I really want to try one of these bad boys. They make great mattress toppers too. This would be a great pillow for you as you can adjust the loft and you don’t have wide shoulders.
As you know there are hundreds of pillow choices out there. With narrower shoulders, you just dont want to go too lofty as you dont want to angle your neck up too much. I tend to prefer solid fill pillows verses shredded, but my horsehair provide such a unique sleep experience, they are hard to describe. They are just not anything you would expect, but do lean toward the firm side. TP’s are not adjustable, but dont need to be, they are just soft but supportive. My take on the pillow is they are mini mattresses for your head. They need to provide comfort and support.
Keep in mind any shredded pillow needs to have the right cover on with the correct material to handle removing or adding fill so the fill doesnt flatten out the pillow to an unusable flat tire.
Let me know what you think!
