My husband and I are 125 and 150 pounds, mostly side sleepers sometimes back. My husband wanted a hybrid latex because he likes springs. Other things that were important to us were mattress height, ideally 12 but no more than 15 inches, and a pillow top similar to a regular bed because sleeping directly on latex feels too gelatinous and alien (we have a 2 inch TALALAY topper from sleep on latex on our old bed).
Even though they were a little tall, our favorite mattresses, we tried in store were the Naturepedic EOS pillow top and the avocado green ultra plush. The price was prohibitive on those.
We went with the sleep ez hybrid and it’s very firm and doesn’t provide enough pressure relief. I’m calling sleep EZ today to discuss topper options to see if we can make this mattress work for us.
In order to get the wooly pillow top feel, I was looking at their select latex topper with an inch of wool and quilted top. That is 4 inches total, 3 inches of either soft Dunlap or soft Talley latex.
This topper cost over $800 and has a short return window, much shorter than the mattress itself. It’s also so thick that I don’t even know if we’ll be interacting with the mattress that we bought, that really isn’t working for us. I’m wondering if this is the best solution, or if we should just send it all back and try something else. With the topper, the purchase is about 3K, and I wonder if I should just buy a mattress that works for us at that price, that we’re not having to customize so much in hopes of being comfortable.
I saw engineered sleep has an option on sale right now the duo latex with the plush top layer that would work for us at a slightly better price.
As I’m sure many of the people on this forum have been through, this whole thing has been an ordeal. I think returns for sleepEZ are kind of a pain if we have to send it back in boxes since it weighs 180 pounds as a king. But I really don’t want to Frankenstein a mattress that I’m gonna have for the next 10+ years. I don’t know what I’m doing, and I don’t like having such a massive purchase and massive item that inherently isn’t comfortable and needs a very expensive fix.
If there is a better way for me to think about this, any advice would be helpful.
I get what you’re saying. It’s okay to use a topper, you don’t have to feel like you’re hurting the function of the bed. It’d actually be similar to the plush avocado you tried in store if you put a tall super soft topper on it. My idea to get a similar feel was to use a 3" super soft blended topper in a cover from mattresses.net that’s the softest latex you can buy retail.
At your weight using medium latex on the top i think you do need a topper. Im 220lbs and a medium for the top layer on my diy bed was annoyingly responsive and firm.
You could try a wool topper as well. I got one from Amazon for 200 that was 1000+ gsm it functioned as a very nice plush top layer. You decide the type of feel you want for your topper.
Definitely try that topper from the other bed on top of that one first if it’s a soft topper. It would be more comfortable like that and then if you wanted you could either buy wool batting to put on top of that either with or without a topper cover (i got mine from turmerry) or add this to the top Amazon.com we had this one before and it is very very soft
Hi there! I can definitely relate to the feeling of “How many things am I supposed to add to this mattress before I admit it may not be the right solution?” The part that stood out to me was your concern about spending another $800 on a topper that’s so substantial you may barely be interacting with the mattress you originally purchased.
I went through a similar cycle of trying to solve comfort issues by changing layers, adding toppers, adjusting firmness, etc. What surprised me is that the biggest improvement I eventually found wasn’t another comfort layer at all.
Since you’re already talking with SleepEZ, you might also take a look at their sister company, Incline Sleep. That’s actually where I first learned about incline sleeping. The concept is different from trying to soften or firm up the mattress surface. Instead, the entire mattress is placed on a gentle incline.
What I liked is that you’re still sleeping on the mattress you chose rather than continually modifying its feel with more foam, latex, wool, and toppers. In my case, I found that changing the sleeping angle affected pressure on my hips and shoulders more than some of the comfort-layer changes I had experimented with.
The reason your post caught my attention is that it sounds like you’re reaching the point where you’re wondering whether you should keep customizing the mattress or step back and rethink the problem entirely. That’s exactly where I was. I kept asking, “Do I need another layer, a softer layer, a different material, or a different mattress?” Eventually I discovered that body positioning throughout the night was also part of the equation.
Not saying incline sleep is the answer for everyone, and if the mattress itself feels fundamentally too firm you may still decide to return it. But before investing hundreds more dollars into a thick topper, it might be worth spending a little time reading about the incline sleep concept and deciding whether that’s something you’d want to experiment with first. For me, the difference was quite surprising ~ I really didn’t expect such a huge improvement but the incline uses gravity to remove pressure so I felt like I was floating. I really love it. Just thought I’d share in case it helps you too.