Hello all,
My husband and I are american and have lived in england for the last 20 years. For some reason, we tend to often buy mattresses that we don’t like, and I am trying to figure out what the patterns are so that we have a better chance of making a good next choice.
We’re both quite tall - husband is 6 foot 5 and I am 5 foot 11. He weighs about 230 pounds, and with the extra 20 I gained during lockdown I am now 180 (but declining slowly). So we are not light. And we like to sleep spooned up - so we are usually two not-light people in the centre of the mattress together.
When we first got together we bought a dux 7007. We loved that bed, except that there were difficulties with the spring cartridges near the top (microspring cartridges) - they were held in very well, and slid apart and caused pain in those places. Dux replaced them for us for newer ones with velcro, but they still felt like they moved and caused discomfort after some time, and eventually we gave up and decided it was too much trouble and expense to keep replacing the top springs.
The Dux felt soft and since we loved that - we bough a Vi spring herald supreme (a lower midrange vi spring) and we wanted to order soft, but they recommended medium based on our size, and told us if we ordered medium and we didn’t like it they would remake it for us in soft. Well, we didn’t like the medium at all, so we got the soft one, and we liked it okay for awhile but never loved it. After a couple of months I bought a 5 in memory foam topper for it and we liked it more but it was never great.
We bought a sealy symphony from Costco which was sprung but with a thickish pad of memory foam on the top. Comfortable for 1.75 years, then horrible.
Then we got a Casper, which was fine for a couple of months, but we started having bad backs after that. Then we tried a Casper which nearly crippled me after ten days (saw the osteopath a couple of times and that didn’t fix it).
Now we are trying to work out what to do. We like soft feeling mattresses, but I wonder (after reading around in this forum and the buying guide) if we actually need firmer springs and a very soft surface? Instead we have been saying we like soft and getting soft springs which don’t last long and aren’t terribly comfortable, really.
I feel like we still get on better with sprung mattresses but I am not sure if that is because we didn’t get the right non-sprung ones and because the memory foam at the top of the ones we looked at weren’t thick and soft enough for us and we were feeling hard foam right underneath the shallow comfort layer.
We are going to look at a place that makes their own latex mattresses and toppers on Saturday. We wonder if non sprung will be enough support for the two of us in the middle? We don’t want to buy another expensive mattress and have to replace it again in a year.
We still have the medium vi sprung stashed in the spare room as they didn’t want to take it when they delivered the soft one. It’s 12 years old, but was only used for two weeks or so. We wonder if a thick soft latex pad would make that bed acceptable to us.
Are we just big enough that we will need to replace our mattresses more frequently?
Does anyone else see any patterns in this to help guide?
Many thanks - I wish I had found this website years ago!