I have come to almost ALL of these conclusions, too! I don’t think there’s much of a point of 1.5" softer talalay support-wise; it just changes the feel when you lay down. I cut the cover off my topper which made it softer and more conforming, which cut down the pressure. (I think it does make it squishier and warmer, though. I minded at first and then liked it!)) Still, I’m going through that and the 1.5" that’s sewn into the bed, hitting the N3 with my hip and shoulder. (I’m 135 lbs for anyone else considering.)
The OTHER thing is that that super lightweight latex on the soft side of the bed is really only meant to last a year or three (depending on who you ask.) The lower layers will last much longer though! But since they’re glued together, when you’re done, you’re done. Or I guess you order a “repair” or whole new bed through their warranty?
I think ordering an all-latex bed online with no frame of reference would be really hard, but if I knew now what I knew then, I wouldn’t buy this again. I’m still considering getting a component bed or DIY if the replacement isn’t an improvement, but that’s not ideal either as you usually need to make all the layer swaps (and pay for their shipping AND package them), within 30-90 days generally, if you want to see any of the money back.
I’m jealous of all the people who live close to the better latex bed manufacturers! Part of me thinks it’d be cheaper/easier to pony up for an inexpensive vacation to build a mattress on site and get it dialed in person rather than deal with all the swapping that people seem to do…I know you can’t lie on a bed in a store and REALLY get the feel, but for me, I can at least narrow out the soft ones. My back IMMEDIATELY hurts.
I didn’t say it will FOR SURE go to a landfill…they do have charity partners and also sell some of the beds as “samples” to friends, family and employees. But you have to let the delivery guys take it and do with it what they will. I do feel like this is a major marketing oversight on a company who caters to a more ecologically minded crowd…I live in a town that literally has the most non-profits per capita, it would be nothing to ensure it went to someone who could use it.
The devil I know scenario is a tough one, especially if you’ve finally started sleeping after a big disruption. You definitely don’t want to buy something that’s going to make you worse!
It is funny to me, when I was younger, I could sleep on just about anything, from sprung sofa pullouts to old futons to my rock hard childhood mattress… Humans are designed to sleep in the dirt! I’ve been severely ill the past few years, getting terribly out of shape, and I just seem to just get pickier and pickier. I do wonder if I recovered more strength, if more mattresses would feel comfortable to me.