History - After my previous 2 mattresses (springs sagging after 3-5 years), my last mattress was a Temperpedic with a factory pillow top. I got 18 years out of that mattress before the pillow top was too compacted. TP gets a bad rap but I have to say I thoroughly loved that mattress. However I was always intrigued with latex and so I recently purchased a Turmerry all latex mattress.
I got a 3 layer all latex queen mattress. All are Dunlop latex. Firm core, and medium and medium for the upper 2 layers.
I’m 5’ 11" and weigh 235 but am working on getting back down to 225 or so. I’m a side sleeper. Girlfriend is approximately 5’ 6", and around 160 (although that is a guess, and I value my life so I won’t ask). She is also primarily a side sleeper and is pretty curvy (winning!) with swimmers shoulders and curvy hips. We are in a long distance relationship so it’s just me (and the cat with murder on his mind) that sleep on the mattress about 95% of the time. I also want her to be comfortable too obviously.
While I love the mattress so far, I really believe we can both benefit from having a 4th layer, another comfort layer, that is a little more forgiving and plush. As of now, this bed just feels too firm and just doesn’t give enough for these 2 side sleepers.
I was considering going Talalay for the new top layer or possibly even Dunlop again. I’m just not sure what makes sense for our sizes and also considering we are both side sleeper. It seems obvious the medium Dunlop is just too firm for both of our likes.
I was really considering either Talalay soft or medium OR Dunlop soft. I’m just not really sure what makes sense and which will give us that more plush feel that is also a bit more forgiving. I also don’t want us to be “bottoming out” that top layer. So what is your advice on thickness, material type, and firmness level? I was leaning towards 2" mainly due to cost, but if 3" will make the most sense, I don’t mind splurging a bit, if that is the difference between bottoming out the top layer or not. I also worry about this 4th layer just not being plush enough, especially for her. I’m sure ideally it would be best to do a his/her split but she often ends up on my side (with me hanging on for dear life to not fall to the floor), so I’d prefer the consistency of not doing a split.
Please let me know what you would recommend. Thank you in advance.