Hi ryan23,
Different people can also have very different perceptions of firmness and softness compared to others as well and a mattress that feels firm for one person can feel like “medium” for someone else or even “soft” for someone else (or vice versa) depending on their body type, sleeping style, physiology, their frame of reference based on what they are used to, and their individual sensitivity and perceptions. There are also different types of firmness and softness that different people may be sensitive to that can affect how they “rate” a mattress as well (see post #15 here) so different people can also have very different opinions on how two mattresses compare in terms of firmness and some people may rate one mattress as being firmer than another and someone else may rate them the other way around.
Ultimately, your own experiences and perception are the most important, and if you have an affinity for something with a surface comfort that is harder feeling, you may wish to try the firm comfort of the BME and see if it meets with your needs. While the recommendations that a manufacturer makes are based on what “usually” is most popular with certain somatotypes and BMIs and sleeping styles, it’s not always the case, and you should certainly trust you own personal experiences and testing and not discount those. You’ll also want to make sure to be completely familiar with any potential return/exchange policies of any other manufacturer you might be considering, just in case things don’t turn out as well as you had expected and the product does not meet the firmness expectations that you need.
Phoenix