Over the last few months I’ve been reading this forum off and on, and researching different mattresses. We’re both in the 250lb-270lb range, I’m 5’8 and my husband is 6’5. I think we’re going to choose a latex mattress, though we remain a little concerned about body impressions.
We had a 10" Tempurpedic for a while, but after two years it got unbearably soft/mushy where we are heaviest. For example, most of my weight is around my waist, and it got so soft there, that I no longer had any back support. Tempurpedic of course would not honor the warranty because they wrote it like an innerspring, giving you a refund only if there’s a deep indentation. As we know now, foam beds like that don’t really create a dent like boxsprings, they just go soft, which you can only tell once you lie down. That essentially makes the Tempurpedic warranty useless. So we threw away the Tempurpedic and have been sleeping on our older, indented but at least firm, springy and cool boxspring.
We’d like to go for a latex mattress now, because it will relieve some pressure points for us, as heavy side sleepers, that our firm innerspring doesn’t. Right now I sleep with a pillow under my arm, and then two or three pillows under my head, to keep my neck supported, my arm from getting compressed too much by my upper body (large chest), and to give my waist a little more space. I also like the elevation, which helps with cervical arthritis headaches. Latex will allow us to use an adjustable bed frame, so I can sleep slightly elevated all the time.
We tried the Savvy Rest in a store, which seemed fine (I think we like F/F/M best, but they had no XF options), though we really won’t know until we sleep on it. People on the forums here suggest that SleepEZ is essentially the same, only cheaper, so we’re thinking we’ll order that instead. We have no idea what to get though…
We’ll get two Twin XLs, so we can get different configurations. My husband says he wants something “with a firm surface but more give’ underneath”, and he does not want to sink into the top layer. Should he try F/M/M? F/F/M? XF/F/M? We could swap out a top medium layer to the middle if it’s too soft for him, or would F/M/F be super hard on top, is Firm essentially not a good option for top layer? Can you go F/S/F, or is that really pointless?
Growing up in Europe and sleeping on the horrible mattresses everyone uses there (even the expensive ones just seem to be filled sacks lying on slats), I had back pain until I moved to America where I first slept on an innerspring mattress. Even though I was only 150-200 lbs as a teenager, I always assumed I was just doomed to a life of back pain because of how extremely heavy I was (by European standards). Turns out those European mattresses are just amazingly unsupportive. So firm box springs were better (soft ones in hotels give me back pain), and I also slept well on our Tempurpedic until it got soft after two years.
Now I’m not sure what to get for the SleepEZ layers. I’m heavy with my weight concentrated around my waist, so I don’t want to destroy the mattress like we did the TempurPedic. Should I go for F/F/M? As a sidesleeper with cervical arthritis, I do find that, in recent years, I’ve needed a little more pressure point relief to prevent additional nerve compression in my shoulder/neck. Is medium basically ‘soft’ for someone of my weight?
What if I get XF/XF/S, would I just sink through the top layer onto the super hard XF? What about XF/XF/M? Would I notice a difference between an XF/F/M, an XF/XF/M and a F/F/M or does the bottom layer really not make much of a difference? I’m thinking the extra firm might lend durability to us, being heavy. Or do we even need four layers instead of three at our weight? (F/F/M/M, or F/F/F/M, or XF/XF/M/M?)
Anyway, sorry, lot of text and questions, but I just wanted to give as much information as might be helpful! Thanks for any advice any of you might have for us!