Help choose a mattress!

Hi everyone!

I hope guys can help me with my problem.
I have a mattress that is supposed to be medium firm that i bought in 2021 when I moved to my apartment. For the past week or so I have been having a lot of back pain (middle of my back) I tend to sleep on my sides and I flip a lot during the night. I don’t remember what the brand of my current mattress is. But I am in search of one that will help with this back pain bc it really wakes me up in the middle of the night. And I tried to get a mattress topper too and that didn’t help at all.

Just for reference
I’m 5”7 119lb.

So I am trying to find a new one that won’t cost me a kidney.

Hi georgiasoares,
Welcome to the MattressUnderGround.

Have you checked the mattress and foundation? Often, depending on the mattress and its construction with lower quality foams, many well-known legacy brands only last 3-5 years at best. If you own a legacy brand like Sealy, Serta, Simmons, Stearns & Foster, or BeautyRest, it’s likely time for a new mattress, even if it seems like a short lifespan.

For someone with your body profile 5’7 119, a mattress with lower quality foams or a poor foundation, might be the main trouble spot as it is not just heavier folks like me (6’ 220) that kill mattresses with lower quality foam.

You want your search to include a mattress that contains a quality support layer, whether it be pocketed springs or latex foam. You want to be sure you buy from a manufacturer that is transparent about the materials, foams and spring gauge they build their mattresses. Most transparent companies will list them right on the website in the description of the mattress, and others like some online BiB’s such as Brooklyn Bedding, will offer the specs upon request via chat or email.

If a mattress that becomes too soft over a time frame, most toppers will not fix the issue, at least not for a meaningful period of time.

I am not sure how much kidneys go for these days, but mattresses from companies like @DLX @EngineeredSleep or latex mattresses from @TheCleanBedroom (their Natually Organic Line) @Latex_Mattress_Fact1 and @Arizona_Premium all can get you a comfortable mattress for under 1500.

Latex has a different type of feel than synthetic mattresses and for those who like the “natural or eco” approach will find them very appealing. They tend to be very contouring and provide excellent pressure relief.

Comfort as anyone will tell you is a personal experience. You can get comfort with many combinations of quality materials in the build of a mattress. The key is ‘quality’ because we advocate that mattress builds employ more than 1" of lower quality foam, we suggest you pass on it.

Hopefully, this will give you an idea of what direction to look.


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Hi Georgiasoares and thanks for reaching out on this! You might want to take a look at our Roma mattress - It’s the best value available in latex, it’s an outstanding mattress and it actually has only a 3% return rate for us year after year. The industry average for mattress returns is 15-20%, just for reference. It’s a flippable mattress, so one side is softer and the other side is firmer.

We also have the organic and natural mattresses (the Select Sleep mattresses) are our flagship products. They’re fully customizable, meaning you can order the mattress to be as soft or as firm as you’d like. They’re also fully adjustable, meaning you can change the softness, firmness, back support, pressure relief, etc. AFTER you get the mattress in your home. To be more specific, the 10” is our most popular, and these mattresses normally go out with three 3" layers of different firmnesses - normally the softest layer (or the cushion & contour layer) is on top and the supportive layers are on the bottom. This helps ensure our customers get the right balance of contour for their hips and shoulders but also support for their lower back. If you start with a certain setup and find that it’s too soft, you can unzip the cover and rearrange the layers to get a firmer feel out of the mattress, or you can exchange a layer to make it softer. Additionally, latex mattresses typically last 20 years. If, in 5 or 10 or 15 years you decide you want a softer or firmer mattress you would only have to buy a new layer instead of an entirely new mattress. Lastly, if the mattress starts to break down in 15 – 20 years, it’s normally the top layer that breaks down first, and at that point you can likely just buy a new top layer of latex instead of a whole new mattress and get an additional 8-10 years out of the mattress.

Furthermore, queen, king, and cal king mattresses are available with what we call “split layers,” which means you can have us cut the layers down the middle (from head to foot) so that you can have a different feel / firmness on your side versus your partner’s side, and you can adjust each side independently over the 20 year lifetime of the mattress. About 95% of our mattresses go out with all split layers from top to bottom, and we get zero complaints on being able to feel the split and we get zero complaints about the layers shifting or anything like that, even if you sleep right on the middle of the mattress.

If you’re wondering how to pick the layers for this mattress, you can go to the natural or organic mattress page, click the green button that says “Build Your Mattress Now,” then click the gray oval that says “Personalized,” and you’ll be able to enter your information. The website will then make a personalized recommendation based on your information (the layers in the mattress diagram will reflect the recommendation after you click the “Apply” button. Please note that our initial recommendations have a 90% success rate (we only have a 10% layer exchange rate) so there’s a 90% chance that the recommendation turns out to be your perfect setup!

Although it’s not likely that you’ll need to rearrange layers or exchange layers, you certainly have the option to adjust the mattress according to you and your partner’s specific needs and preferences, both in the short-term and long-term. We have a 90 day exchange and return period, so you can exchange a layer within the first 90 days for a flat-rate $30 fee for the first exchange and the full cost of shipping for any subsequent exchanges. We will ship your layers first, and we will ship them with extra plastic that you can use to package your current layers, and we will ship it with a pre-paid Fed Ex return label. Also, if you will please call us when you are ready to ship your layers back we will schedule a free Fed Ex pick up for you. You will have 30 days after its arrival to return a layer of your choosing, so you’ll have plenty of time to try a few different combinations with the layers you have and the layer we will be sending you so that you can get your comfort and support levels just right.

Regarding the differences between the Roma and the organic mattress, our Roma is an enclosed mattress that quilted on both sides and is adjusted by flipping it, and the Select Sleep mattress has a zippered cover that is adjusted by unzipping the cover and rearranging the layers. The medium-plush side of the Roma feels just like the Select Sleep mattress in soft/medium/firm, and the firm-plush side of the Roma feels just like the Select Sleep mattress in medium/medium/firm (these are our 2 most popular setups for the Select Sleep mattress). The Roma is an outstanding value for sure, and it actually has our lowest return rate, so the Roma is definitely an excellent choice.


Thank you so much for all the information. I really appreciate it! I will give a look at the ones you listed since I’ve been on the lookout for this past week.