I am looking for help choosing a king size mattress. I am a 38 years old, 5’9", and weigh about 165 pounds with an average build. My wife is 35 years old, 5’8", and weighs about 140 pounds and has broad shoulders. I sleep about 60-65% on my side, 25-30% on my back, and occasionally end up on my stomach. My wife primarily sleeps on her side (70%) with the remaining time on her back. Historically, she slept on her stomach until she started having back issues. My wife prefers a softer, conforming comfort layer (much like memory foam) and requires good pressure relief as she sometimes wakes up with lower back and shoulder pain. She often tosses and turns at night and has lower back problems stemming from a weak core as well as shoulder problems. I prefer a medium soft mattress and sometimes snore, but I honestly can sleep on almost anything.
A few years ago, we went through several different mattresses including the following:
- Brentwood Home Ojai Mattress: My wife found the mattress too firm. She says she slept on top of it instead of in it. We also tired it with a topper, but this made the mattress too soft and not supportive enough.
- Novaform 14" Serafina Pearl King Plush Gel Memory from Costco: My wife also found this mattress too firm.
- Tuft & Needle - Legacy Original King Mattress, Medium-Firm Feel: We ended up keeping this but never really loved it. We used it for 6-12 months but eventually moved it to our guest bedroom.
Since discovering this forum in my most recent mattress shopping sting, I am considering the following types of mattresses:
- All latex mattress: Thinking soft Talalay for comfort later, medium Dunlop for first support layer and firm Dunlop for the last layer. Another option would be to do all Dunlop (soft, medium, firm) and then add a Talalay or memory foam topper. I am worried that my wife will find this too firm. Will a soft Talalay comfort layer come close to mimicking the contouring?
- A latex hybrid mattress: Will a latex hybrid be as durable as a pure hybrid? Are the only real advantages of a hybrid are that it feels more like a traditional mattress and it is slightly cheaper than an all latex?
- Memory Foam: This feels like the safest options but not the best. My wife like the contouring feel of memory foam. Will this be a better option for my wife? Could I just add a memory foam topper to a latex mattress and get the best of both worlds?
We have a ZINUS SmartBase Heavy Duty Mattress Foundation / 18 Inch Metal Platform Bed Frame. Is this sufficient to support these mattresses? If not, could I add a bunkie board to add extra support?
I have been stuck in research mode for too long and have been indecisive. My wife has given me a deadline of this weekend to order a mattress. I am leaning toward a latex mattress from one of TMU partners. Would it be crazy to order a latex mattress before even lying on one because we won’t be able to make it to a mattress store by the end of the week. What advice would you give me?