Hot, heavy, side/stomach sleeper back, shoulder hip pain

Paid a lot of money for a fully organic mattress a handful of years ago, was working well, but moved in with my partner and she wanted to keep her mattress. I cannot remember the specs of what I got.

5’10, 225 pounds very muscular with low body fat. Throughout the night, my shoulders go numb sleeping on my side or my stomach on this mattress. When I wake up in the morning, I have back and hip pain for the first couple of hours. Definitely wrecking my sleep. When I sleep at a hotel, family, or friends houses I do not have these problems.

So I am mainly aside sleeper, and sometimes transition partially to my stomach. I sleep very hot.

Partner is only 5 ‘5 and 125 pounds. She sleeps cold. She sleeps on her side and her back. When she sleeps on her side, her shoulders hurt as well. But she gets absolutely amazing sleep scores on her oura ring while I do not at home. I get way better sleep scores at hotels! I don’t wake up as much, and I don’t have the shoulder pain in the middle of the night or the back and hit pain in the mornings.

Reading through threads on form or doing searches on the Internet is so confusing. I do not have a big disposable budget, otherwise I would try one of those fancy beds that has temperature control, measures HRV, can tilt head up, or make adjustments for each individual partner.

So what are the options if you don’t want to spend many thousands of dollars? Is there a bed that would work for both of us or focus on my needs since she sleeps good on anything?

Do any companies have first responder or veteran discounts?

Open to advice, suggestions and leads for companies or beds to consider based primarily on my needs…

Hi Heavyjockhotsleeper and welcome to the forums! You might want to consider the 10" organic mattress by SleepEZ - https://sleepez.com/product/organic-latex-mattress/ Mattress Underground members get a 5% discount if you use the coupon code Mug5 at checkout, and that’s our biggest discount and we can only apply one discount per order, just FYI.

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Although it’s not likely that you’ll need to rearrange layers or exchange layers, you certainly have the option to adjust the mattress according to you and your partner’s specific needs and preferences, both in the short-term and long-term. We have a 90 day exchange and return period, so you can exchange a layer within the first 90 days for a flat-rate $30 fee for the first exchange and the full cost of shipping for any subsequent exchanges. We will ship your layers first, and we will ship them with extra plastic that you can use to package your current layers, and we will ship it with a pre-paid Fed Ex return label. Also, if you will please call us when you are ready to ship your layers back we will schedule a free Fed Ex pick up for you. You will have 30 days after its arrival to return a layer of your choosing, so you’ll have plenty of time to try a few different combinations with the layers you have and the layer we will be sending you so that you can get your comfort and support levels just right.