New here, and glad to have found this forum!
My husband and I are in the market for a new mattress. We have a 10 year old sagging, always been too firm for me cal king Therapedic backsense rhapsody that we paid close to 2K for a decade ago. I had a cal king memory foam topper that was too soft for my husband and I folded in half on my side of the bed until I got rid of it a little over a year ago since I felt like I was sinking in too much and my shoulders were rounding and I was having more neck pain. Slept fine without it for a few months, and right after I finally discarded the topper I started waking with numb heels while on my back, and sore hips and shoulders on my side. Been alternating on and off with a cheap walmart topper since, and its too soft with that and too firm without, and there is sagging in the mattress itself. All that to say, it is time, but also my experience with this one makes me want to really get it right this time. My husband prefers firm, which is why we got a firm mattress. He also sleeps very hot, so we are hoping to get something that he wonāt end up waking drenched in sweat. I sleep colder and in the winter bring a heated bean bag thing in bed to keep my toes warm.
Given all of that, we are looking at hybrid latex mattresses, and we tried the Avocado green as it was the only one we could find in a nearby store. We were both pretty happy with the medium, but seems very expensive to me, and I worry that the top layer will wear out first and then youāre out a $3500 mattress in a few years. This one needs to last us 10 at minimum if we are spending that much. The sales rep told me that buying the firm avocado mattress and adding my own topper isnāt going to end up giving the same feel, as the layers in the main mattress are also different, not just the topper. From their website though that doesnāt seem to be the case. We do own two twin mattresses from MyGreenMattress and find those comfortable though we havenāt slept a night in them. I did notice some signs of wear on my 5.5 year oldās mattress already though, so thatās a bit concerning. Granted he sleeps like a log no matter what.
After looking at the avocado, as well as sales people showing me all the options and robot beds that sing you lullabies, Iāve gone down the rabbit hole looking at various other options of either a more affordable but comparable option to the Avocado, or Iām liking the option of getting the bed and the topper separately, especially if the topper wears out first. The sales rep also told me that the springs wear out first, but Iām not sold on that.
As far as heat, it looks like many toppers are just the latex with a cotton cover, but the hybrid mattresses with attached topper tend to have wool in the top layers to keep things cool. SleepEZ appears to have a topper with wool, or Iām curious about @EngineeredSleep 's version that is made to be adjustable with the bed and topper separate. We are in the Central Valley, CA, so @EuropeanSleep isnāt too far, and that option intrigues me as well, or there are so many others Iāve looked at in the past few days. The ability to easily return or exchange is also high on the list, especially if we canāt see it in person first. Open to any recs or advice! Also advice as to whether medium is the right choice given out heights and weights and sleep positions.
For the tl:dr, looking for hybrid cal king mattress solution for my husband and me. We donāt love the feel of memory foams, and like the idea of more natural materials, and the durability and temperature regulating properties of latex sound enticing.
Me: 5ā10" 135lb mostly back sleeper, but also side, currently back because bed is too firm for side. History of herniated disc in low back, and head/neck pain/migraines.
My husband: 6ā4" about 210lbs, mostly side sleeper but sleeps in any position, snores with allergies, and sleeps hot.
Thanks in advance just for reading if you got this far!
