Hi nikibasil,
Welcome to the MattressUnderGround and we are happy to have you here.
A key thing to keep in mind is that there isn’t just one type of mattress or material that’s the perfect fit for everyone, however, it is equally important to understand that there can be several mattresses that could be equally perfect of an individual or couple. It’s important to find the right combination that works for both of you, knowing that there may be more than one option that can meet that need.
A latex hybrid mattress with a coil system seems like a great option to consider. Latex offers great pressure relief, especially for side sleepers like you, helping cushion areas like the hips and shoulders. At the same time, the pocketed coil system provides support and durability, while also promoting airflow, which is important since you both sleep hot. This type of hybrid construction can offer the best of both worlds – the responsiveness of latex and the sturdiness of coils – so it could help give you the comfort and cooling you’re looking for.
Furthermore, the foundation your mattress rests on, the sheet set, and pillow can make the difference between a comfortable sleeping environment with the appropriate support and accessories that complete the set-up for the ultimate in comfort.
Since you’ve mentioned that the Pillar medium soft mattress doesn’t provide enough support, it would appear that a medium to medium-firm feel might be a better fit for you, particularly when it comes to relieving pressure points without sacrificing support. For your husband, who primarily sleeps on his back, a medium to medium-firm mattress would help maintain good spinal alignment, while still offering comfort when he switches to his side. One mattress that is known to offer a similar feel to that S&F you like is the DLX Premier Hybrid, which comes in an HD polyfoam option and a latex option. That hybrid feel of coils and latex could give you both the right balance of pressure relief and support.
Another thing to consider is the zoned support in mattresses. While zoned support works well for some people, it might not be the best fit for you if you’re feeling misaligned. Not all mattresses with zoned support work for everyone, so a more consistent support system might be what you’re looking for. On a recent vacation I had the good fortune to visit European Sleep Works, where I sampled just about every mattress in the house. Two mattresses, the Heritage and Nordic II HDM, latex-based mattresses, was a great example of how different materials can surprise you. Even though I did not think I was a “latex kind of sleeper” I found those mattresses incredibly comfortable. This just shows that latex mattresses can work well for many different types of sleepers, even those who haven’t been accustomed to them in the past.
Considering that you both sleep hot, cooling is another important factor. Latex, combined with a pocketed coil system, microcoils, naturally allows for airflow, which helps with temperature regulation throughout the night. This was likely part of what you enjoyed about the Heritage and Nordic II mattresses, latex’s breathable properties are great for keeping cool while still providing enough comfort. I know that durability is a big concern for both of you, and latex is known for its long-lasting qualities. It resists sagging and body impressions over time, which means you won’t have to worry about the mattress losing its shape or support as quickly. The combination of latex and coils gives you that durability, while also offering the flexibility and comfort you need.
At the end of the day, it’s all about finding the mattress that best fits your unique needs, and there are definitely several options out there. Whether you end up with a latex hybrid like the @DLX DLX Premier Hybrid** or something closer to the @EuropeanSleep Heritage or Nordic II, it’s about getting that perfect balance of support, pressure relief, and cooling.
There’s no one-size-fits-all, so exploring different options and materials is key. And the two companies mentioned are not the only choices out there, but are two I have personal experience with and for someone who is extremely selective with what I like (or so I thought), I just mentioned them as there are a couple of similarities which meets some of your stated preferences. The great thing about TMU, you have latex manufactures like @Arizona_Premium, @Sleep_EZ, @CST, @TheCleanBedroom, and @SuiteSleep plus others, that if you choose to collaborate, will find your ultimate sleeping mattress system.
Best of luck to you on your search,
Maverick