My DH and I are now almost 2 years into mattress purgatory, and I feel like I no longer have any capacity for good judgment. Please help! Maybe I should have found this site sooner.
We had a pillowtop innerspring I liked. It was several years old and my DH thought it was too soft, though he was generally pleased with it. Kingsdown I think, a huge thing, more than 12 inches high. When his brother needed a mattress, I thought we could give him ours and that we could get something we both agreed on. Slept on our spare innerspring while we were looking. That was terrible.
Considered buying a Shifman from Bloomingdales, since my parents love theirs, but we missed the sale and got to be in a hurry because my DH was getting cranky from poor sleep. Finally decided on a latex, in a bit of a hurry. Bought from Plushbeds – botantical bliss 9". I liked the marketing, but neither of us liked the feel. The latex was creepy to me, like sleeping on gel, and several nights I woke up with a numb arm and no less back pain. DH wasn’t happy either. What put me over the edge was the body impressions. Three months of use and there were visible hollows. I didn’t think latex did that! Finally, disappointed, we returned it.
I feel in love with the wool mattress marketing. It made so much sense! I like wool! Wanted all the benefits promised. So we bought a mattress and topper from Surround Ewe. Slept on an air mattress while waiting for it to arrive a year ago. It was / is gorgeous. A monument to clean, natural goodness. But I miss the bounce of an innerspring. Spend more time and energy than I’d like on bed “maintenance,” airing it out daily, flipping the topper every two weeks. And I HATE the massive trough we’re each sleeping in now. Despite following instructions about breaking the bed in and rolling around, it’s like being in separate hammocks. No return policy. It’s not all bad. The material is fabulous, and when I get the bed to myself and can sleep on the hump, I like it. I’d stick with my sub-optimal choice if it were just me for another few years, until I felt I had good enough value for my too pricey investment.
But now my DH is waking up achey. The wool has compressed to the point where he’s hurting.
We’ve gone back to the manufacturer and doubled down on buying more wool once already. Were considering ditching the whole thing for a new innerspring once we found a good product and price. Which I think I’d like (too much marketing reading has left me spinning and uncertain of everything) but it’s such a waste. Plus, any rigid mattress has to come through our window three stories up. Not a big deal, but it does make DH and I less fast to pull the trigger.
This morning I had the brilliant idea of getting a latex “topper” to go between our wool topper and the wool mattress. The mattress itself is firm and in nearly perfect condition. My DH just needs more cushioning. Would that work? Or would it add to the depressions we sleep in now?
Here are some details - we live in Annapolis, MD, are both about the same height (5’10" +/-), weight (190 lbs +/-), healthy-ish and about the same age (late 30s +/-) and both end up sleeping on our sides, although we dabble in back and stomach sleeping.
As much as I get sucked in by Savvy Rest (clearly susceptible to marketing), I was thinking about SleepEz’s 3" queen uncovered talalay blended medium. My thinking is that no need for a cover or soft because we will still use the wool on top on the latex layer. Just want it as a softer inner pad for my husband.
Thoughts? And if you’ve made through this tome, thanks!