I am feeling so discouraged.
I am curvy. Not quite Jessica Rabbit, but seriously close (if she was 4" shorter). If a mattress is too firm and I am sleeping on my side, my outside hip and the inside waist get sore from being overstretched. My shoulder gets uncomfortable, too, sometimes falling asleep. Basically, my hip doesnât sink in and neither does my shoulder, so I can really only sleep on my back. This wakes me up, because my body doesnât âknow,â while Iâm sleeping, that I shouldnât roll on my side.
I unfortunately have high-maintenance temperature issues. I set an infrared blanket to warm me up for the first hour of sleep. I canât fall asleep until I am warm. If I fall asleep without it, as soon as my temperature drops, I wake up. If the sheets slip off my shoulder at night and my shoulder gets cold, I wake up. At the same time, I often wake up soaking with sweat later on in the night.
We use a mattress from a discount furniture outlet. Iâm not sure the place still carries it, but I think these were the specs:
- 1" comfort foam
- 1 and 1/2" Layer Plush foam
- Lumbar Layer Memory Foam
- 1" fiber support layer
- 490 coil 13 and 3/4 gauge spring
We were using a 4" down topper. It flattened so quickly; it was great the first night, then flat. Iâd have to un-make the bed daily to keep it fluffed up.
So I bought a soft 3" latex mattress topper (20 ILD, Dunlop, from Sleep on Latex, bought the cover, too) and tried it last night. My hip still doesnât sink in, neither does my shoulder; it is still quite a bit better than before, but Iâm still in this C-shape on the bed if I try to sleep on my side. It is absolutely better than the down topper, but it still isnât comfortable. I was also sweaty last night! It may be that the infrared blanket doesnât breathe well and it is not the fault of the topper. My SO woke up stiff as well, although he just said he needed a quick stretch and it wasnât related. Either way, Iâm so frustrated that this didnât work out as expected.
I was thinking about putting a topper on the new latex topper. Something softer than 20 ILD. I read about horsehair toppers today, which are wicked expensive, and Iâm not sure what the ILD is. It does sound like âsleeping on a cloud,â though, which sounds like it would help. It also sounds like it doesnât flatten like down. Is there anything else comparable? Any information on the softness of these? Either that, or I can wrap my waist and knees so theyâre even with my shoulders and hips!
Iâm also wondering if I could do some kind of moisture-wicking sheets or PJs. I read that the sheets made of athletic material are not great, because theyâre hard to move around in.