Hi. I have thoroughly enjoyed this site. I only regret is not finding it a year ago when my nightmare began!!! I live in MS and to my knowledge there are not many local manufacturers beyond the S’s and big retail available. I am your classic mistake after mistake. First, I bought a firm Simmons to make my husband happy. However, it caused severe bursitis and has set off a domino effect where sensitivity is still triggered. I had 60 days to swap but because I did not have time to heal, I chose something too soft and lacked lower back support. We are now stuck with an expensive icomfort prodigy that has been moved to the guest room. Needless to say, we also melted on that memory foam mattress. Later, we borrowed my parents serta plush tight top for awhile to allow us time to recoup. It was on the much firmer side of plush, but with a 2 inch memory foam I was at least not waking with a long lasting severe pain. Instead, it was just a daily overall stiffness that went away after an hour every day.
My parents needed their guest mattress back but I was still gun shy on buying another. If I laid on a bed that was either too firm or soft in a the stores, it would trigger an immediate response within me sending my body into orbit. Eventually we ended up buying a sealy diamond bar. I was skeptical of the entry level and really wanted better quality but it was the only one that didn’t send me into shock in the store. They said their floor model was definitely broken in. However, after a month and a half a new part of me hurts severely (around my shoulder blades) when I am on my back. It seems like the alignment and support is just off there.
I am back in my downward spiral of no sleep and pain. Even more so, spending the night away from home is equally unenjoyable to being so sensitive that when i travel i hurt all over and the pain is severe. I’m on my 3 rd steroid in 8 months which frightens me. A rheumatoid doctor doesn’t think its autoimmune but with my latest episodes, my primary thinks there is something more underlying to make me so senesitve. I know that you cannot address medical questions, however, part of me is still convinced that I have made a horrific string of bad choices that is affecting me differently and severely with each new mattress. Is this possible? I can trace it all back to the start of my first purchase and with every change.
I’ve been reading alot of your info on talay toppers. I am beginning to wonder if my best bet is going with a more firm mattress like my parents and just adding a different topper to it to get softness. Will the talay offer me that much more relief than the previous memory foam? I would love to find the perfect mattress without going this route, but if i have to keep going our budget and my husbands patience will wear thin. Fortunately we are working with a large mattress seller that will allow 100 days or your money back so i have considered trying a lux firm with a soft talay topper. Is this just another bandaid or could this work? I am also curious if a topper can actually help preserve the longevity of a new mattress?
I have been reading about your recommendations to build your own latex mattress. While this sounds intriguing, I don’t know how many more rounds i can go through. Also, while i hear latex is cool, I’ve also heard an all latex bed can be hot. This is my husbands only deal breaker.
I wish time was on my side but we have to purchase something soon. Obviously somethings going on with my body whether its just extreme sensitivity to these changes or something more underlying. You should know that i am a side and back sleeper who is 5’6" and weighs 200 pounds. Ive recently lost 20 and am shooting for more. Meanwhile my 240 pound husband could sleep on the floor as long as its not heated. This is probably the worst time to try to buy a mattress but we must do something. I am desperate and welcome any other thoughts you may have. I can no longer think rationally!
Thanks
Klauser33