Greetings all! I sorely wish that my first post here was a bit more optimistic, but I’m quite discouraged at present and trying to find a direction forward.
Phoenix - thank you for your staggering knowledge base. I’ve learned more about the mattress industry, what constitutes real “quality,” and how to shop just from lurking on these forums - an entire universe that I never knew existed until I stumbled across these forums.
So here’s the story, buckle up
I very nearly lost my life this past summer due to: an unholy maelstrom of:
- A freakish reaction to a prescribed steroid
- A severely lethal case of undiagnosed sleep apnea - hello, BIPAP therapy! :unsure:
- Family genetics
The above conditions culminated in a 15-day stay at a delightful cardiac specialty hospital - the first six of which I lost an incomprehensible 125 pounds in the first 6 days.
That isn’t a typo, it happened. To date, there’s no medical explanation as to how I survived this, nor any rationale for why I’m healing SO fast with such a fantastic long term prognosis. Life is on the cusp of being truly great now, and I appreciate every person I meet, even total strangers on a mattress forum. :cheer:
In the aftermath, I literally woke up overnight in an entirely new body - “Avatar: The Home Game.” It’s taken several months of physical therapy to rebuild my center of gravity and leg strength, with shifts in posture, muscles, skeleton, etc. There’s much pain as a result, including a slight shift in a lower back disk that occasionally causes my left side to “tingle.” I’ve been forced to abandon stomach sleeping after a lifetime and I’m slowly transitioning to my back
Unfortunately, I now require an adjustable bed frame with a “zero gravity” setting, which seriously limits my choices, so I’m stuck with either latex or memory foam with a thickness no more than 11’ - an entirely new world if you’re used to sleeping on a cruddy off-brand innerspring.
Thanks to the wonderful caliber of posts here, I now understand what to shop for in a mattress. Unfortunately, I also live in a area that’s fairly desolate with no local companies and filled with “Mattress Firm” type stores. I LOVE the idea of saving money and getting a better product, but I’m quite discouraged after reading some of the feedback on these forums. Even good return policies seem to be incredible hassles for people, and nobody seems to actually have a product that is as described - probably just the nature of how subjective “comfort” is.
For example, I’ve been in contact with one well-regarded manufacture that’s a member of this site and I’m befuddled that they described latex as “feeling like an innerspring” - not at ALL the type of feel I expected after researching,but I also don’t want memory foam mattresses that might use solid, durable densities but still ultimately feel like quilted bricks.
So, I’m saddened to say that I’m going down with this ship… Against all common sense, on these very forums, I feel like I"m trapped in the big box world, because I just can’t endure gambles at this point or eventually spending more money on returns, having NO bed to sleep on in such windows, and an endless merry-go-round.
I don’t know what the solution is. It’s quite obvious that the “Big S” manufacturers have a remarkable stranglehold on people like me. I don’t feel like I have any choice in my situation other than sucking it up and financing a Tempurpedic.
Thanks for all of your well reasoned arguments - I’m at a total loss as to how to fix this and the pain isn’t going away.