Time for an update. Quick recap: I have hip pain when side sleeping and back pain when back sleeping on a new PLB Pamper mattress. I’m also having neck problems attributable to the pillow. Even my shoulders have been bugging me recently, but I assume that’s more of the same (too firm a mattress).
Topper: After letting the Walmart foam topper air out for 4 days, we finally tried it last night. (Not relevant to this discussion, but: It probably needs to air out for 4 weeks, not 4 nights. I thought it had dissipated, but the smell was still horrendous after being confined in our room all night.) Ignoring the odor, the topper was somewhat helpful, but not enough to keep using it. I can’t say the difference when on my side was all that noticeable. Perhaps I could stay on one side longer, but not enough to care. It was more noticeable for my back. I could and did sleep on my back for some time (I can’t read the clock, so I don’t know how long), and though I started to feel some pain and flipped to my side, I woke up without any back pain (which would not have happened without the topper).
Went to the bed store yesterday and tried some toppers on their Bliss model. The only 2 that I felt might work (but who really knows?) were 1 latex and 1 memory foam. The latex topper was a 2" PLB, with a very low ILD number (13? 15?). They also had a 3" version but I found it much too soft. The memory foam was also a 2", but I didn’t find out the density. The store does not allow returns on toppers, so if I gamble and lose I’ll be out $250-$350 or so. Between the two of them, I’d say the memory foam felt more likely to work, but having had a memory foam topper for many years there are some things I was glad to have left behind (mainly the heat and the difficulty moving around). Still, a good night’s sleep beats little issues like that, so I’m probably more inclined to go with the memory foam. They may have an older latex one in their warehouse that we could borrow for a few nights; we’ll know by this weekend. Otherwise I’m dis-inclined to purchase from them and will probably go with a Costco memory foam topper. (I might also go with Amazon, but Costco is much easier for returns, so …)
As for the pillow, I got this shredded latex pillow, and I just love sleeping with it. It is SO soft and yet can be firmed up by bunching the bits together. Unfortunately, despite my trying for 4 nights, I always woke up with a stiff and/or sore neck. It’s the most comfortable pillow I’ve ever tried, but it seems I can’t use it. So the last few nights I’ve been back to the one that worked the best for me, the buckwheat husk pillow. I don’t like it, it’s too hard on my face, but it seems to give me the best support. Oh, well.
I’ll provide a further update after I’ve gotten and tried another topper.