Of course the shoulders would be higher because they’re wider; I’m talking about the spine, which (for most people) is supposed to be in a straight line from neck to base of spine, and horizontal to the floor, right? DP did check my alignment very carefully in the SavvyRest store before we bought this mattress, and I was straight and level; so that’s what he’s comparing this to. He has a photographer’s eye and can spot a straight or crooked line pretty well. IDK but if after 3.5 weeks of perfect sleep, the bed suddenly feels softer, I feel like my hips are lower than they were, I’m suddenly waking with lower back aches, and DP confirms visually that my spine is now tilted with my hips lower…well, it all seems pretty real. 
[quote=“Phoenix” post=15034]Next … when you are “fine tuning” (making smaller changes) rather than more “rough tuning” (larger changes) … I would give each change or “symptom” a little more more time. In other words your body may need time to catch up to each change so that your testing is more indicative of your longer term experience on the mattress rather than a result of the many other variables that could be involved with various issues or “symptoms”. Even the initial adjustment period can involve a few days of discomfort for many reasons … some of which may have little to nothing to do with the mattress itself. I would suggest a week of “symptoms” that indicate a pattern would probably be better than making changes for something that only happened for a few days.[/quote] I have a general question about this point. If I’m having back pain and it’s confirmed visually that my alignment is indeed “off,” I’m not sure I understand the point of giving it more time. Do you feel that as the bed continues to break in, maybe other areas will soften and my alignment will go back to where it should be? If so, then that’s the best news I’ve heard all week, and I’ll certainly give it more time.
We both slept perfect on this mattress from day one until now–no initial adjustment period…or is this it? DP is still sleeping fine. ???
[quote=“Phoenix” post=15034]Next … I would make the smallest possible incremental changes at a time to see how this affected things. In your case … having the soft on top of firm with medium underneath would provide firmer support but not to quite the same degree as F/F underneath.This would have less effect on the pressure relief.[/quote] So you’re saying that if we switch around the layers in the bed a certain way, and DP says my alignment looks just as bad or worse, and it feels just as bad or worse, I should still try sleeping on that combo before eliminating it? Am I putting too much importance on the visual alignment check? Unfortunately, all of the combos we tried not only looked worse, they felt worse too; i.e., instant lower back strain.
[quote=“Phoenix” post=15034]Having said that … if you are on firmer layers or even more so thinner firmer layers (like your option #2) … both your hips and shoulders will not sink in as much which mean that your waist would also be compressing the foam underneath it less as well and the support under it would be less. If the overall mattress “allows” both your hips and shoulders to sink in more then the deeper overall compression would allow for more compressed and firmer foam under the waist (or small of the back) and increase what I call secondary support (the support that “fills in” the gaps in the sleeping profile).[/quote] Yes, I think I see that now. Every combo we tried that did not have the soft on top was actually worse, as my hips/shoulders weren’t sinking in enough, causing a new (apparent) problem, the dip in the waist.
[quote=“Phoenix” post=15034]
The first one is always to talk with SleepEz themselves …[/quote]
Yes I did talk to Shawn; they’re really wonderful to work with. His suggestion was M/S/F. Unfortunately, that created a severe dip in the waist and was actually the most immediately painful combo.
My guess at this point is that I really need the soft layer on top, but just a wee bit more support underneath somewhere, somehow, to keep me level. Actually what seemed to work the best was I took a med and a firm and turned them sideways on the bed as the middle layer, with the soft on top. This gives a sort of improvised 2-zone middle layer: medium for my upper body; firm for lower body. Whether it would “sleep well” of course I don’t know.
[quote=“Phoenix” post=15034]You may also find that if you change your mattress protector that this could also have an effect on the overall feel and performance of the mattress so this could be another factor to take into account (I seem to remember you mentioning you were ordering the Dormeir).[/quote] Yep, the Dormeir is on order; right now we have nothing but the thin sheet.
[quote=“Phoenix” post=15034]One final thing that would apply more to Dunlop layers than Talalay is that they have a firmer side and a softer side. The closer to the bottom of the original 6" core the layer is the firmer it will be (the rubber particles when Dunlop is produced “settle” a little) and while this would not be as obvious in a 3" layer and as it would be in a 6" layer … there is some difference on each side so turning a Dunlop layer over is also a way to provide some fine tuning even though the differences may be smaller and you may need to decide by feel which side is firmer.[/quote] We checked for that and neither of us could really tell any difference… However, perhaps flipping and rearranging the layers did help as last night was a little better.
So, it seems like we should just sleep on the original arrangement for another week and see what happens?
Thank you again and again, Phoenix. 